I was recently on a first date with a very cool and pretty girl. I met her a couple weeks back through some mutual friends and we hit it off right away. After a couple flirty texts back and forth, I called her up in the middle of the week and asked if she wanted to go pick some pumpkins with me. It seemed like a great first date. It was a fun way to get to know each other without being in a weird and uncomfortable setting.
So after the pumpkin picking (which couldn't have been more perfect), I took her out to dinner to one of my favorite restaurants. That is when it all started....
Her phone rang, she picked it up and talked for about two minutes. No big deal, I'll get over it. Then it vibrated. She picked it up off the table and spend the next minute sending a text back. Then it vibrated again and she went back at it with the keyboard. This continued on and off throughout the whole meal.
I literally just sat there and watched her type and make weird faces while she concentrated on the screen of her BlackBerry. It was more than awkward. I had no idea what to do. Often times she would be in mid sentence and then stop what she was saying to tend to her phone. Other times I would be in mid thought or sentence and have no idea if I should continue what I was saying or wait for her to finish on her phone.
I never experienced anything like this. Usually I put my phone in my pocket and have it on silent or vibrate. If it goes off, the most I do is check it to make sure it's not an emergency...which it never is, and then I put it back in my pocket. I just call or text the person after the date.
When I'm on a date I want to be with my date. I want to show her my attention. This date made me feel worthless. How can I possibly feel like your interested in me if the most important thing is your cell phone. Especially since I took the time to take you out and buy you dinner (which I don't have to do).
So the moral of the story is...DON'T USE YOUR CELLPHONE AT DINNER ON YOUR FIRST DATE!!
Just for a sidenote....It wasn't an emergency she was tending to, it was just her friends bugging her. I decided not to call her after that date and she actually text me later that week telling me she had a great time and couldn't wait to hang out again. This just blows my mind!
Go ahead, have some fun
scarlettewiththeropeover a year ago
I HATE people that do that! I know a lot of people who are like this, just completely attached to their phone. So annoying. It's even worse that she didn't get it was a no no! You've got my sympathies.
StillFiguringasdfaItOutover a year ago
This should generally apply most of the time - enjoy the moment you are in, and the person you are with...
But definitely, on a first date... that sucks.
(As a different perspective, I also wonder if the date went on too long, especially being the first one? It sounds like she gave her complete attention to you during the 'date' which was the pumpkin patch... and at dinner she was excited to talk about the date with her friends; perhaps dinner could have been date 2)
sexpertover a year ago
I'm not a texter or a chatter on my phone. It is basically for "I need to know this immediately" purposes. I use the internet for all my mundane chatting, so since it is such a different lifestyle to be completely available to anyone for anything at any time is bizarre to me. I don't text during movies, I don't text during dinner, and if I'm in the middle of something when someone calls, I ask if I can call them back. I used to get along just fine without a cell phone, and when I see someone who would go into withdraw without theirs, it's a turn off for me.
RelaxItover a year ago
This is definitely the worst thing ever. You need to respect someone's time and that's what it comes down too. If you decide to go on a date with someone then you should be giving them your attention and not someone else who is on the phone. Turn the phone off unless you are expecting something important or their could be an emergency. 10 years ago people didn't even have a cell phone on their date. How has this even become socially acceptable?