If you are dating online, and most of your first interactions are through e-mails and instant messages, then would you stop talking to someone if they had bad grammar or spelling? Wha if tey rote lik dis, wud u wanna still chat wit dem?
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Ask Eveover a year ago
Answer 1 of 10
Personally if I were wanting to date someone online then their grammar wouldn't need to be perfect but text speak is definitely a no no. Good grammar and punctuation shows someone who is educated. If they continually wrote in text speak or had really bad spelling and punctuation then they are not for me and I would pass them by.
Simone de Boudoirover a year ago
Answer 2 of 10
That is one of my filter criteria when I post on Craigslist. If you can't write in proper sentences, I don't want to talk to you. Your only excuse is if English is not your first language.
woman31over a year ago
Answer 3 of 10
I would absolutely not be interested in someone who wrote as you did in your example. I agree with sex-lies in that the profile should be perfect. If there is one misspelling or grammatical error, I may overlook it, (depending on what it is.) However, things like abbreviating "you"? "You" is a three letter word! What is there to abbreviate?
Ultimately, I find that when I read things written in "text-speak", I am annoyed and assume the person is less intelligent, or simply lazy. (Intellectually, or otherwise.) It's not that I expect every profile/email/IM to be Shakespeare, (that would be annoying as well), but I do prefer someone who writes like an adult.
Text message spelling mistakes are completely forgivable, but I would cringe at a "c u l8r"
BevZabover a year ago
Answer 4 of 10
Grammar and spelling say a LOT about someone, especially about their own standards about themselves. It's one thing to use a couple of well-known internet memes (e.g., lol, rotfl, WTF, FTW & et c.), but to deliberately parse chat poorly is unattractive--to *me.*
Ok yes. you've only got 160 characters, fine. So send more than one message or make it clear you're being curt. But if I can't figure out what your'e saying with more than a minimum of effort, I'm going to lose interest.
But an email? An online profile? Forget it! Those should be next to perfect (trival typos notwithstanding), with clearly stated ideas and something vaguely resembling complete sentence structure.
sex-lies-datingover a year ago
Answer 5 of 10
I expect the profile to be impeccable, as a person has time to go over that a few times and use spell and grammar check (if a guy isn't smart enough to use the tools at his disposal, that's an issue).
Once we start writing back and forth, I'm more flexible. If it's really bad, it's going to be an issue. But I understand that not everybody is a great writer. And I live in NYC where a lot of the men I meet are not native English speakers, so I don't want to be a hardass. But the example you gave, DELETE.
scarlettewiththeropeover a year ago
Answer 6 of 10
Great question! I have done some online dating, and honestly spelling and grammar take care of the first round of cuts with people who e-mail me. If they can't take the time to make a good impression in our first contact, I just can't take them seriously.
StillFiguringasdfaItOutover a year ago
Answer 7 of 10
I would expect their profile and e-mails to be reasonably well written... you have time to run spell check on it so do it!
As far as IM goes... occasional mis-spellings are OK but using the wrong word, bad grammar, excessive short forms, etc., would probably annoy me. (OK it annoys me with my friends but we cut each other some slack because we already know each other...)
Would you cut someone some slack if they showed up to the first date in their 'comfy' clothes?
Albedoover a year ago
Answer 8 of 10
It really depends on how bad it is. I depend heavily on spell check, so if it a form of communication where that isn't available, IM or texting, I am fairly forgiving.
Minor grammatical errors I tend to fix mentally as I am reading and as long as they are infrequent don't bother me too much.
What I will not abide is the constant use of shorthand. Take the extra 10 seconds and type out the whole word! If you really want to talk to me I expect that you will make some time to do that, just as I will do for you.
The last thing that will drive me crazy is run-on sentences, and lack of paragraph usage. If you are sending me an email that talks about multiple subjects there had better be multiple paragraphs.
jakedanmanover a year ago
Answer 9 of 10
I would likely not continue to talk to someone if our initial conversation began like that. In a strange kind of way it is a first date. If someone took you out to a less than desirable place, one would not be inclined to repeat the experience.
Bad grammar just to me (at least when I am still getting to know someone) is a reflection of them as a person in general. If I do not know you very well lets skip the slang!!! This all I have to also form an opinion of you! After I know someone for a while then short hand is ok.
steveo7over a year ago
Answer 10 of 10
Wow, interesting question. Honestly, my answer would be yes, I would probably stop talking to them. When someone's spelling/grammar is THAT bad, it just signals to me that they're probably not the most intelligent person. I can't speak for everyone, but intelligence is a quality that I value highly when dating.