One Night Stands
What are the Do's and Don'ts for the morning after?
I'm in college and one night stands are something of a norm. I always feel so weird in the morning though. I assume that is how it is for anyone but there has gotta be some obvious Do's and Don'ts to generally live by. Anyone, guys or girls, have some good advice on how to handle the situation and make things go as smooth as possible?
sexpert289 days ago
Answer 1 of 4
I have wondered the same thing, specific...
I have wondered the same thing, specifically, do you give them a kiss goodbye if it's a one night stand?
Generally, being courteous, respectful, and accommodating. If it's obvious that she is getting ready to leave, ask her how she's getting home, and make sure that if she is cabbing it that she has the number for the cab and that she has money. If you have a car, offer to drive her home (if this is an option).
It has been said before, but don't lie about if you want a second night together. Just be gracious, polite, and warm.
And the safer sex educator in me thinks that making sure you both have each other's contact information is a good thing. After all, what is one of you finds out that they have an STI or is pregnant? It would be a good idea to be able to get in contact with someone that you have slept with, even if you never plan on having sex with that person again.
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SaraMonsterover a year ago
Answer 2 of 4
Don't lie...don't say 'i'll call ya' if ...
Don't lie...don't say 'i'll call ya' if you don't plan on it
Don't make her breakfast. Maybe spending the night isn't a good idea, unless you're drinking and don't want to drive home which I'm assuming you are nearly 100% of the time. ;)
Kyle Miracleover a year ago
Answer 3 of 4
Awkward feeling in the morning is due to...
Awkward feeling in the morning is due to a lack of Rapport. To elevate that feeling, start being more genuine and deep with girls before you hook up with them. This will help you A) keep girls around longer than one night, B) help you learn to manage yourself in and out of relationships, and C) prepare you for the real world.
I can't tell you how many guys I know who went to college, "got more pussy" than they knew what to do with, then graduated and had NOTHING. I know you don't want that; no one does. So use this extremely social time period in your life to develop yourself.
Feel free to PM me with any questions.
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MsLoVeover a year ago
Answer 4 of 4
Of course there are many more, and some ...
Of course there are many more, and some seem obvious, but n general:
Do:
-be there in the morning; if you peace out really early to avoid awkwardness later, it will backfire
-keep things lighthearted; if you make it awkward, it will BE awkward
-wake up relatively early and get yourself dressed and put together
-offer to drive him/her home or ask for a ride home (or call a friend to get you)
-a hug or kiss is definitely acceptable; I mean c'mon, you have already been inside her/had him inside you this shouldn't be weird
Don't:
-ask "what happened last night"; unless you really don't know and need to ask for safety. This is insulting and can make you look like a slut
-linger or sleep in
-make comments like "what are we?" or "what are we doing?"
-apologize or say "I can't believe we did that"; it implies that there is something wrong with what you did or with him/her- this is embarassing
-make her/him hang out at your house while you chat with your friends; no one wants conversation or introductions at that time
-ask about any of his/her friends (suggestively); this is pretty obvious
-make them fend for themselves; if they are in your house be hospitable (walk him/her out, offer water etc.)
