Sex Life (or Lack Thereof)
How to keep the passion alive?
What can a long-term or married couple do to keep the passion alive? For example, I've been married for a couple years now and although we are still madly in love for each other, we don't have that "can't keep your hands off each other" feeling anymore. I miss that. How can a couple bring that back into a their love life?
Ask Eve204 days ago
Answer 1 of 7
A great way to bring the passion back in...
A great way to bring the passion back into a marriage is to CHALLENGE ONE ANOTHER - NO SEX FOR 2 WEEKS! Talk about it and draw up a chart together. I will base this on a 2 week sex abstention. For the next 2 weeks, (3 weeks, 4 weeks, you decide…) neither of you will have intercourse, instead you will talk and get to know each other and each others bodies again. For the first 3 nights when you go to bed, cuddle up but NOTHING MORE, no kissing on the lips is allowed at this stage either. Talk about what turns you on, what you like (or would like) to do/try with your partner and what you like done (or would like done) to you. On Night 4 you are allowed to stroke and caress one another but DO NOT go near the genitals or the breasts! Kissing any part of the body is allowed but again NOT the genitals and breasts.) Where do you like to be touched? Where are you and your partner’s erogenous zones? Are you even aware you have these?
On Night 7, kissing on the lips can be introduced again. Stroking and caressing is still allowed. You have gone a week without sex but stay disciplined and again no touching the genitalia or breasts. On Night 10, plan to give one another a massage. The breasts can be massaged too and sucking of the nipples is allowed but again NO touching each others genitals! Continue to combine all of these things until night 14… THE BIG NIGHT! I can guarantee if you have stuck with it and not had sex by this time you will be absolutely rampant for one another.
Plan your special night, (Night 14), set some ambience in the room by lighting candles and/or playing some soft music. Put nice clean sheets on the bed and bring up a bottle of wine (or two.) Shower and smell nice with aftershave/perfume. The woman can wear some sexy lingerie to entice you more if she chooses then just enjoy one another… Happy loving!! **winks**
~Eve~
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Ray233 days ago
Answer 2 of 7
Simone... I like your idea alot! Hard t...
Simone... I like your idea alot! Hard to find a wife that will agree to this arrangment, though.
Simone de Boudoir237 days ago
Answer 3 of 7
Have you ever considered an open marriag...
Have you ever considered an open marriage? That would allow you to sleep with other people and thus when you sleep with your wife, it can be all exciting and new again.
Having heard this lament a number of times before leads me to believe that humans aren't meant to be sexually monogamous.
DateDaily259 days ago
Answer 4 of 7
This is easy At least once a month, hav...
This is easy
At least once a month, have a date night
One of you must make all the plans
You dress to the nines
You go to a nice restaurant
You share a bottle of wine
You talk dirty
You go home
and you get nasty!
You can even role play at home.
Act like strangers
Switch personalities
Dress up
Black Iris261 days ago
Answer 5 of 7
An interesting answer I read once was pu...
An interesting answer I read once was put forth by an Orthodox Jewish woman. They don't have sex or even touch for about half the month due to rules about periods. Then they can't keep their hands off each other afterwards!
To some extent, I think the answer is to recognize what you have gained from a long-term relationship. Things are deeper. The sex is better because you know what each other likes and how to prolong things. It won't be the same as the beginning, but it can be better.
Other things to do - try new things, go someplace special, set aside time for "gourmet" sex. Visit an adult toy store.
Kyle Miracle263 days ago
Answer 6 of 7
I am hesitant to compare Marriage to War...
I am hesitant to compare Marriage to War, but I recently heard a quote (I wish I could reference it for you!) about war that I think applies to marriage as well.
"If the battle is easy, you are walking into an ambush."
Also, "War cannot be avoided. It can only be postponed to the advantage of your enemy." (I believe that's Machiavelli)
Now before you write me off as crazy, allow me to translate. If a relationship seems dull or mundane, you may not be developing yourSELF to the degree you should be or can be. A relationship is constantly changing and developing as you and your spouse grow closer and discover more about each other. Some things you like, some things you don't like...some things you like A LOT. ;)
A big part of relationship management is learning to accept the things you cannot change and enjoy the small parts. Failure is not measured by a lack of success; failure IS a measurement OF success! The only real failure is giving up.
I know these words are philosophical and right now they may not seem to apply to your marriage. But remember these words and I believe someday you will find the perfect application in your marriage!
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COLTOR263 days ago
Answer 7 of 7
The Sex is Fun Podcast has a great episo...
The Sex is Fun Podcast has a great episode: keeping monogamy hot. I suggest looking it up. You also might try looking at their forums located at greatsexgames.com/forums
There's a pretty good community there and I'm sure someone has asked that question before.
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