Breaking Up
What would it take for you to get back together with an ex?
As much as I miss my ex, and as much as we love each other, it's hard for me to imagine any circumstances that could make this happen. I was really surprised to read the results of the recent poll on The Frisky. I'd love to hear what you think/your feedback.
scarlettewiththerope122 days ago
Answer 1 of 5
I spent a long time playing the break-up...
I spent a long time playing the break-up-make-up game with my ex, and from my experience none of these were reasons why we'd get back together. Usually it was because we remembered what we loved about each other. We kept trying to be friends... terrible idea! One of us always broke sooner or later and made a heartfelt confession. I can admit, though, that the first time I was so mad about why we broke up that I decided I was going to make him want me again. And yeah, that experience bit me lol.
Nowadays, if we broke up, I trust that it was a good idea. To ever get back together with an ex now I'd have to see serious evidence that whatever caused the break up had changed, for good!
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RelaxIt123 days ago
Answer 2 of 5
This is an interesting question. It all...
This is an interesting question. It all depends on what the terms of the breakup where. If I was dumped and was still in love and the person wants to get back together then the terms will be different if the person cheated on me. And those are all different from if I was the one who ended the relationship.
Here's a couple scenarios with a couple answers
-I got dumped
I would need to know what has changed in their feelings. At one point they felt they no longer wanted to be with me so what has changed now? I need to fully believe whatever the answer to that question is. I need to feel wanted. If i still feel wanted then I would consider it. One of the best parts of a relationship is the feeling of being wanted as much as you want the other person.
-They cheated on me
Why they deserve to have a second chance is clearly important. Why their mistakes happened and what has changed that would prevent them from screwing around again. I would need to fill that it's worth it emotionally and mentally for me to devote myself to them again
-I broke it off
I would have to want and desire them again. I would have to feel like I need them in my life and that I want to devote my time, energy, emotions to them. I would need to have the physical attraction be there too.
These are just some general guidelines for some general scenarios.
blueyes20123 days ago
Answer 3 of 5
I checked out the link, and the poll ove...
I checked out the link, and the poll over at the Frisky. I agree...some of the results were a bit surprising to me too. It looks like about 45% of their votes were for "Nothing. If I take him back, I'm lying down and giving up when I just need to move on", which is how I feel too. I think I'm a pretty rational person and someone who knows what they want (and maybe more importantly, why I want it). So when I decide to end a relationship, its for good reason. I know they aren't the person I'm supposed to be with. We're not right for each other.
On a side note...some of the choices for that poll on TheFrisky...seriously?! Like the first one...yea, I'm gonna get back with an ex-boyfriend cuz he cooks me a meal?! are you kidding. Or the third choice, that if he "wants to talk about it" then we'll get back together. Maybe its just me but I take relationships pretty seriously, and bad ones can be hell. I don't care how much he talks, it doesnt change anything lol. I can't believe almost 30% of people chose that one. A great question, but a really poorly done survey. It would've been interesting to see this done with some better answers.
sexpert123 days ago
Answer 4 of 5
If by "get back together" you mean sleep...
If by "get back together" you mean sleep with them, that's pretty easy. Basically, they just need to be either single or an open relationship.
However, if you mean an emotional relationship, all of my exes are relationships that are beyond redemption. We broke up because they didn't live up to my standard, or vice versa. We're not a good match. We figured that out, and there is no point in revisiting old relationships. Being in a nice, healthy, and happy relationship also makes it easier for me though, since I have no desire to get back with anyone.
Albedo123 days ago
Answer 5 of 5
A lot of work. There is a reason that we...
A lot of work. There is a reason that we are not dating anymore and that reason has to have been resolved.
Also you will both have to realize that you can't just pick up where you left off. You will need to start over again. This could be made easier or harder by the fact that you have had a relationship before.
