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Playing Hard to Get - Why do you find it hot?
Alright, I suck at playing hard to get. I'm a very assertive, blunt, and intense person. None of these things make it very natural for me to play hard to get. yet - I have had girls do it to me, and it drives me up the walls, so I know how effective it can be.
So tell me, for those of us who have had experiences where someone who is more aloof or less available - why does it work?
What exactly are you attracted to? Is it the confidence? The independence? The challenge? The mystery? The drama (does she like me or doesn't she?)? What about the thrill of the chase? Or something else altogether? Tell me what you find intriguing about that girl that teases, entices, and then pulls away?
bender123124 days ago
Answer 1 of 2
i don't
Life is too short for bullshit like that. You're interested in a date/hanging out/whatever? OK. No? OK too.
There's a fine line between acting "hard to get" and just not being interested. Pursuing someone "hard to get" is OK, but pursuing someone who isn't interested is kinda creepy. I try to err on the side of not being creepy, so if someone acts "hard to get" I'll probably think they aren't interested, or just want drama/attention without actually wanting anything more than a chat/email/sms relationship.
So, it wouldn't work for me but YMMV.
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Simone de Boudoir212 days ago
Answer 2 of 2
I don't really like playing games. Usual...
I don't really like playing games. Usually because it amounts to drama that I don't want. If you like me tell me straight up. If I hit on you and you're not interested, say so.
Though, I will admit, I kind of like the thrill of the chase.
