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How many people you know are in a need-based relationship?
This includes:
-I need you for money
-I do not like being alone
-I like people knowing I am taken
-My biological clock is ticking
-etc..............
oohlookasquirrel201 days ago
Answer 1 of 6
How many married people do you know who ...
How many married people do you know who are in relationships like this? I'm pretty sure it describes my parents. They're not passionately in love anymore and often they can't stand each other, but they stayed together for the kids and now stay together because they don't dislike each other enough to go through the incredible hassle of a divorce and setting up new lives at such a late age. They need each other. And at their age, I think that's fine. I think it's kind of sad for someone in their 20s to be in the same position because they have plenty of time to find someone they like more, but I do think there are places for this sort of relationship in the world.
I love my boyfriend and the primary reason for us living together is not "need", but my life would be pretty miserable without him to help with cooking and other mundane tasks when I am too busy to sleep, or to help me out financially when I need help and he's able to provide it. I certainly don't have time to date right now, and it's nice to have someone to depend on for sex and reassurance when I need it. If I didn't love him, he would annoy me and I would have to move out. I can tolerate sharing my living spaces with him because I love him, but he is also super convenient to have around and my life depends on his a great deal.
Yes, there are a lot of relationships out there that seem at a distance to exist simply for convenience, but it's a tricky thing to be judging someone else's relationship, trying to decide if they love each other enough to be maintaining the relationship for the right reasons. I complain about my boyfriend lightheartedly whether he's around or not, and my friends might see that casual teasing as evidence that I don't love him all that much and am just keeping him around for convenience, but they don't get to see the same parts of the relationship that we do.
People can need their partners while still having good relationships. Not to say that there aren't people who date their partners for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with love or sex, but take a minute to consider that you might not have the whole picture before deciding that a relationship you're not a part of exists for the wrong reasons.
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krista25205 days ago
Answer 2 of 6
Lots of girls are jealous and want to ju...
Lots of girls are jealous and want to just be with someone because they want to be with someone and thats it. That the way she rolls.
Studley Do Right207 days ago
Answer 3 of 6
I bet a lot more people then we realize ...
I bet a lot more people then we realize are in some type of relationship that you mention. It's pretty common to hear someone say they are running out of time to find someone to marry and have kids with. A lot of people jump into marriage just because of those reasons and not because they truly feel like they are meant to be with the person.
Money is obviously a no-brainer and we all know how common that is.
I think there's a lot of people out there who can't live with being alone and end up in relationships because of it.
Great question though....It made me go through all my friends and family and think about their relationships. It's surprising when you actually think about them how many probably are or at least were based on some type of need.
Simone de Boudoir208 days ago
Answer 4 of 6
Probably the majority of the population....
Probably the majority of the population. People get into relationships for lots of reasons, and not always for love.
BritishGuy208 days ago
Answer 5 of 6
From a scientific and logical perspectiv...
From a scientific and logical perspective every interaction with somebody else is likely based on a need basis.
Of course there are some obvious ones like interacting with a vendor but in terms of relationships the objective isn't usually money but most people are in a relationship because they want somebody in their lives for the emotional aspect.
Nothing is free in life, if your not paying currency for it your paying for it in some other way.
sexpert208 days ago
Answer 6 of 6
Gah! I hate this! This is why I like to ...
Gah! I hate this! This is why I like to date "independent" people who are okay being alone. I can only be comfortable being with someone if I know that they are okay if I ever left. Like, not threaten to kill themselves, or not be screwed over financially, etc.
My friend is currently in this situation. There was a guy and he said that he was falling in love with her, and she said that she didn't have feelings for him, and would rather just be friends. He showered her with gifts, and she kept being friends with him, but then her mom kicked her out of the house and she had to find a roommate fast. The guy was looking for a place too, and they decided to move in together. Somehow out of this arrangement, they are now dating seriously. I feel like she might just be using him for his money and the gifts that he gives her. It is possible that she could have developed feelings for him, but I think it is a bad idea to start dating someone the week that you move in together, especially since she has never seriously moved out of her house before, and never been in a relationship that lasted more than six months (and even that one was semi-long distance, so the time commitments were different).
I love my friend, but I think she is using him, but I don't know what to do, because to tell her that she doesn't love him is for me to tell her what she is feeling (which I think is stupid, she knows her feelings better than me), and to tell her not to move in with him because it would really strain a blossoming relationship means that she would be homeless. What other choice does she have? Still, the potential for this to blow up in her face is huge. I don't want to insult her, tell her what to do, or tell her what she is feeling (she's stubborn and defensive if it seems like you are trying to criticize or attack her), and I also don't know what my duties are as a friend. I want to warn her about potential dangers, but I have no alternatives for her. I just think this one is bad.
