Finding Their Spots
Study: G spot is a myth
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/science/article6973971.ece
Theres never been any physical proof of an actual G spot existing. It's just another erogenous zone kind of like how some women respond to breathing on their neck or ear nibbling but if you needed anymore proof...
oohlookasquirrel238 days ago
Answer 1 of 4
If you had asked me 5 years ago if I had...
If you had asked me 5 years ago if I had a g-spot and could experience g-spot orgasms, I would have said it was a myth too. But since then, I've gotten to know it exists and is capable of doing things that none of my other body parts can do. I don't think anyone has ever claimed that ear nibbling can make them squirt, and for good reason. There needs to be a study for this that examines the physical body and its responses, not what people can learn about their bodies from poking around (or not, as the case may be).
You can't just give people a survey about body parts that are not visible in the mirror. Are you aware of the existence of your liver or your kidneys? Sure, someone might have told you that you have them, but have you seen them or felt them? Probably not.
I wonder how a similar survey on the male prostate would work out. Sure, there's a physical structure there, but is it an erogenous zone? I'll bet many guys who have never explored that area would deny that it would turn them on.
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scarlettewiththerope239 days ago
Answer 2 of 4
Just thought this was an interesting add...
Just thought this was an interesting addition to the debate:
http://jezebel.com/5438842/scientists-say-g+spot-doesnt-actually-exist
As for my take on this... let's all just accept that each person is made differently, responds to different things, and some women can orgasm from stimuli to the area commonly known as the g-spot, while others can only get there from clitoral stimulation, some can't at all, some like both, some can come from nipple play, or even just from their own imagination.... etc etc etc.
Let's worry less about labels and exact definitions and more about individuals :)
sexpert244 days ago
Answer 3 of 4
The gspot is a misunderstood thing. It's...
The gspot is a misunderstood thing. It's not an "instant orgasm" machine. It's spongy tissue that surrounds the urethra. When a woman is aroused, it gets engorged with blood, and like other sexual organs, when it's swollen, it gets sensitive, and feels good to touch.
It is simple to find the gspot, mostly because it is rather large. When you finger a girl, you press upward (toward her belly button) on the anterior vaginal wall. If you pull down a little, you will feel the pelvic bone stopping your fingers from coming out smoothly. That's basically where the gspot is. You will know if you are in the right spot (hopefully because your partner tells you but also) if you can feel that the texture of the vaginal walls has changed. When a woman is not aroused, the vaginal walls are smooth and very malleable. When a woman gets turned on, the part of the vagina closest to the cervix balloons up (this creates a pressure differential, and is actually what causes pussy farts during sex) and the part of the vagina closest to the opening, where your fingers are, will get tighter. This tightness makes it feel ridged. If you are stroking the ridges, then you are stroking the gspot.
The gspot is not actually a cluster of nerve endings. The entire first two inches of the vagina is a big old cluster of nerve endings. The gspot is however, very pleasurable in a different sort of way than a clit. When the gspot gets all swollen, it puts pressure on the urethra, and this is why some women feel like they have to pee when they are getting closer to a gspot orgasm (this is one of the reasons why women often stop themselves from having orgasm, they are worried that if they let go, they will pee - a no-no for most sexual encounters).
Another misconception is that gspot orgasms are instant. Nuh-uh, far from it. They usually take more time and effort than clitoral orgasms (which is why most women just do clitoral stimulation when they are masturbating). You also have to be aroused for gspot stimulation to work. This means that if you aren't horny as hell and didn't already have foreplay, it's going to take awhile to get the gspot warmed up. Often sex is just not long enough to get it to work.
The other thing is that a gspot orgasm feels different from a clitoral orgasm. When you have a clitoral orgasm (what most women are used to), it can happen without you willing it, without you even thinking (I've had orgasms while watching tv commercials before and masturbating. I wasn't consciously paying attention to my clit, I was just touching it, and poof, orgasm). The muscles also tend to tense inward, or pull up, so many women often feel like their hips/vagina are trying to buck away from their fingers or hand.
Gspot orgasms need mental focus (at least this is what I have found, someone else can correct me). I need to be turned on, I need to be into it for awhile, and personally, I need someone else to do it. Unlike clitoral orgasms, where there sensations are very localized and focused, the pleasure of gspot orgasms are more broad and go from my lower back and across my hips, and sometimes down into my legs. when my muscles tighten from the orgasm, my entire body tenses, especially my lower abdomen and ass. I swear, it's like giving birth, Only instead of a baby, you get a massive orgasm. Instead of pulling inward, your muscles push outward. The pushing actually creates this vice-like grip around the penetrating object, which just causes greater contact with my gspot, and then whole thing spirals into a really awesome orgasm. The orgasm (for me at least) tends to last longer, and I have to be aware that the orgasm is coming in order to initiate it. I initiate it by recognizing that urge to tense and push, and then that starts the cascade that leads to the orgasm.I know it's confusing, but it's sort of like sneezing. You can't make yourself sneeze unless you need to sneeze, but if you do need to sneeze there are things that you can do to help it along, or stop it from happening.
I also question how the survey that you quoted was conducted. First of all, they were working from a standpoint that the gspot was a land of nerve endings that if you found it, you wouldn't have to do anything expect tap it, and suddenly your partner would be in the most amazing ecstasy. Um, no.
The second problem is that the survey was conducting asking women if they had found their own gspots. This is a problem. I have spot orgasms. I have them all the time. I personally have gotten so good at having gspot orgasms that I find it easier to cum from penetration than from oral sex or clitoral-only stimulation.
That being said, when I'm on my own, I can't stimulate my own gspot. It's like tickling yourself, it only works if someone else does it (I know many women that can find their own gspot on their own, but I figure if I know I have a gspot, where it is, and have had plenty of gspot orgasms before, even squirted, then there must be other women out there that are like me). So, if me, the master of gspot orgasms can't find it on my own, other women might be in the same boat, and asking them if they have found it, isn't a good indication about whether they have a gspot or not. That's like asking an early medieval population "is the world flat or not?" and then seeing that most respond "flat", that the world is flat. No. That just means that those people have not discovered the roundness of the world. It doesn't mean that the world is actually flat, just flat to them.
So what does this mean? First of all, we need to demystify the gspot and stop treating it like an internal clit. It requires a different amount of pressure, differing times for stimulation, different textures, different amounts of arousal, and different techniques to make it pleasurable. Second, we need to teach women how to have gspot orgasms. It's not like a clitoral orgasm, no you won't pee if you have a gspot orgasm, and yes, it might only work with a partner that you really trust and are turned on by. Fourth of all, we need to stop pressuring women to find their gspot and this whole focus on women having gspot orgasms. Most women don't have gspot orgasms. This doesn't mean that they could never have one, it just means that it hasn't happened yet, and might require more time and energy and effort for something that they could achieve much more easily through clitoral stimulation. I'm not trying to diss gspot orgasms, I love them to death, but in the end, the point of sex is pleasure, and orgasms are not the be all, end all of pleasure. There is plenty of other fun parts to sex too, and if a woman doesn't have a gspot orgasm, that doesn't mean sex was a failure or a waste of time, and most certainly it doesn't mean that she is a failure. Let's take the pressure off of women, and put the focus on what the individual woman wants and desires.
And last of all, we need to stop listening to strange people in white lab coats saying "well my study says" and listen to what actual women are saying and talking about. The brain is the most powerful sexual organ you have. Don't listen to white guys in white lab coats, listen to your brain, your body, and your partner, you'll cum quicker that way. (and yes, I realize I just said this after I just did a whole essay on the science behind gspot orgasms. Basically, I am saying that you can disagree with me, or agree with me, but you are the expert on your own body. Love it, and don't let anyone stand in the way between you and sexual satisfaction/pleasure).
Studley Do Right244 days ago
Answer 4 of 4
Wow...interesting article and great find...
Wow...interesting article and great find. Thanks for sharing. I never stressed about figuring out the great G-spot phenomenon. I use to read stuff or hear friends talk about it but to me it just seemed like a too good to be true thing. Think about it...some secret spot inside a girl that if you touch she instantly has an orgasm? I instead have always focused on the things that each specific girl I'm ever with really gets turned on by. It's the best bet.
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