scarlettewiththerope283 days ago

I agree on every point lol

emmieisayetiover a year ago

i really can't count the ways i disagree with this post. you're making gross generalities about women by saying that women simply aren't as interested in sex as men as well as perpetuating the gender stereotype that all men have a higher sex drive than women as a whole. you have a very good point about sex having more serious consequences for women than it does for men, if only in regards to pregnancy and (sadly) reputation, but at the same time, we do have access to many more effective forms of contraceptives nowadays, and, as evidenced by the soaring numbers of unexpected pregnancies and the lack of education about said contraceptives, the fear of pregnancy doesn't do much to curtail sexual activity among women.

your second paragraph strikes me as offensive. perhaps you didn't mean it that way, but to make it sound like women just pretend to enjoy sex is a huge overgeneralization, and for someone like me who truly loves sex, seems to belittle my mindset. by saying that "we really really don't [want sex as much as men]" puts women who really really do want sex in the conundrum of being separated from their femininity. i think that it is perfectly logical, normal, and beautiful for women to have a high sex drive, and that having a strong libido in NO way decreases our femininity or means we fake it. the shame you speak about is only perpetuated when people make it sound like women as a whole are less interested in sex, because it tries to make it the "norm" for women to be disinterested in sex, the counterpart of which makes women like me and my friends "abnormal" or "faking." that's hugely offensive to me -- a lot of what you wrote implies that women who say they are very sexual are just faking it for attention, and it totally attempts to make our feelings illegitimate and brush it off as a stunt. women are different in so many ways. saying that we either aren't interested in sex or that we all want to bang all the time are both gross fallacies. maybe you didn't mean what you wrote to be offensive, but your views are just that -- yours. they in no way encompass the entire female gender, or even necessarily a majority.

i'll be frank and say that my libido has been, without exception, stronger than my partner's in every relationship i've ever been in. not only that, but the vast majority of women i know have been relieved to hear me say it -- because they'd thought they were the only ones who felt that way.

we are biologically different than men -- that's a moot point -- but it certainly doesn't follow logically to say that means women want or enjoy sex less than men. i don't say i'm a sexual being to be fashionable -- i say it because it is true. i have a very high sex drive, and i've yet to find a guy who shared that (with the possible exception of my new dating relationship). "most women could take it or leave it" -- that statement boggles my mind. i don't know a single woman of my acquaintance who would say such a thing. in fact, the women in my life regularly complain that they don't have sex as often as they like.

i recently asked a large number of women i am friends with on facebook to participate in an anonymous and unscientific poll, simply because i was curious about this very subject. i asked a few questions. the results were absolutely staggering. 90% of the women who responded said they would like to have sex every day or at least 3-4 times per week, and all of them without exception said they prefer sex to be rougher rather than soft and tender every time. about half said they want sex more than their partner, and only 10% of them said their partner wanted sex more often (the rest saying it was about the same). this was not scientific research for a lot of reasons, but the numbers were so overwhelming that in spite of that, i have to wonder why you think women don't care about sex as much as men do. just last weekend, i was talking to the guy i'm dating and one of his good friends, and his friend flat out said that he thinks that the idea that women have a lower sex drive than men is one of our society's biggest myths -- he said that the women he's dated have almost always wanted more sex than he did.

all that said, the bottom line is that we're individuals. each sex is a sum of billions of individual people who differ in many different ways -- sex drive being only one of them. to try and blanket an entire gender with being "horny" or "asexual" is simply ridiculous. men are not all sex-crazed maniacs, and there are plenty of women out there who have legitimately high sex drives. you can be feminine and a "normal" woman whether you want sex every day or not at all.

oohlookasquirrel319 days ago

Wow, sushi makes some huge generalizations there. emmieisayeti did a good job here so I won't bother repeating what she said and instead just speak up in agreement.

I'm a woman with a high sex drive. I often get so horny that it is distracting and I have to take a break from whatever I'm working on to masturbate. My partner likes to have sex frequently, but I spend far more time thinking about it than he does. I've always been fascinated by sex and even when I am stressed and sick and feeling unattractive, I know I'll feel a lot better after having a sexual experience.

scarlettewiththerope283 days ago

I second and third oohlookasquirrel and emmieisayeti lol. I was offended by this post and consider it the kind of thing that perpetuates sexism.