The Ex
From Past to Present
I was wondering, is it really possible to re-fall in love with someone or if it didn't work the first time is that a sign that it won't work in the future as well? I ran into my ex the other day and he is someone I still think about a lot and I still have some feelings for him even though we have been broken up for almost a year. We met for lunch and caught up and it went really well... Something was still lingering there. I'm not expecting for us to get back together necessarily, but if we both end up discovering that we still have feelings for each other then is it possible we can find love and make it work this time or is it doomed to end...?
sexpert60 days ago
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I think StilFiguringItOut is on the righ...
I think StilFiguringItOut is on the right track. What has changed? Tying into this are the questions about why did it not work out? Was the break up messy?
As much as we still hold dear feelings for our past loves, it can come with some negative baggage as well. You don't start off with a clean slate where some things are easy to ignore or to let slide. Old annoyances creep back in, and the history makes small actions feel heavier with history.
It can still work, and I wouldn't interpret this as telling you not to do it, but there are things to consider and it's important to remember your relationship objectively, and not clouded with all that lovey tenderness that we have for past loves.
Still, I hope that no matter what decision you make, that you will find happiness.
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StillFiguringItOut70 days ago
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I am facing this question myself and wis...
I am facing this question myself and wish I knew 100% :-)
The key question is what has changed? Why did it not work out the first time, and why will that not be an issue this time?
MC42370 days ago
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There is no doubt in my mind that past l...
There is no doubt in my mind that past love can be rekindled. There are plenty of married couples who get divorced and then eventually end up together again. There's even stories of people dating in college, breaking up, marrying someone else, divorcing them, and thirty years later getting back with their college sweetheart.
I wouldn't let the fact that you two had a thing once already hang you up. I would just make sure that the feelings are mutual before you let yourself fall for him again.
How do you plan on finding if he has the same lingering feeling as you do?
