Orgasms
NOT putting the p*ssy on the pedestal
It is in my opinion that during sex, most guys are focused on solely getting themselves off that they spend little time worrying about their partner. I mean, maybe I'm just sleeping with really selfish guys, but I feel in general that a woman's sexual pleasure is a huge step below a man's...that a man is expected to get off and if the girl can too then that's great but not really a big concern. I know that it is often more difficult for a girl to reach orgasm during intercourse, but I'm not hearing enough of "does that feel good for you?" etc. A large portion of my pleasure comes from watching the guy off, but I don't feel as if it is the other way around at all. I was also thinking that there have been so many times where I go down on a guy (not during sex) and don't expect anything back in return but almost NEVER will a guy get me off just because and be content with just pleasing me. And I'm not even talking about just oral sex... a little manual stimulation will do just fine if you're one of those guys who doesn't like to take their mouth to the south. Guys and girls, what are your thoughts? Do you think a woman's sexual pleasure is not taken into enough consideration?
Fork in Road128 days ago
Answer 1 of 6
A man is a man only when he can openly ask how to please the woman he's with.
I touched on this in my comment to ooohlookasquirrels post below but I felt it was worthy of it's own answers.
I think most guys, especially when they are young, think that girls expect them to know how to get them off. And to be honest, girls when they are young probably do think that sometimes. This results in guys never wanting to fuss up and ask how to pleasure the lady because they are afraid it will make them look bad in bad or inexperienced.
The reality is, every person is different and likes different things. Being able to confidently ask the person you are with what makes them happy, not only shows that you care about their experience, but that you aren't some big shot who thinks he knows it all.
With all of that said, I didn't see the "light" until I started dating more and matured a little bit. I was just like every other 20-some year old, horny, immature guy back in the day too.
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oohlookasquirrel141 days ago
Answer 2 of 6
speak up and give directions!
I think a lot of young guys are a little afraid of asking how to get you off because they never see anyone doing that in movies or porn. They're just supposed to know how to get girls off, because all girls need is a healthy dose of cock to get off, right? There are a lot of people, especially young ones, who want to look like they know what they're doing already and would rather not "interrupt things" with questions about how you like it.
This is a problem because a lot of women don't want to seem too bossy and thus don't ask for the things they need to get them off. I wouldn't just blame the guys on this one, because nobody's going to know how to get you off if you don't say anything! Maybe the guys have been with a string of women who never asked for anything in bed, so they assumed that what they were doing works for all women. If their previous partners don't insist on receiving head, they might not want to give it. I'm with Dan Savage on this one: any guy who doesn't eat pussy does not deserve to have a girlfriend who gives head.
So, lots of guys don't ask for directions and lots of women don't give them. What they don't realize is that talking about what turns you on can be REALLY HOT. You don't have to sit down at the kitchen table and make demands; some sexy verbal feedback on the things that are working is a great start. Moving a guy's hand to your clit and showing him how much you like to be touched there isn't too bossy and will likely get you what you want.
studmuffin200 days ago
Answer 3 of 6
I fall under Sexperts definition of p*ss...
I fall under Sexperts definition of p*ssy worshiper. I pride myself on taking my time and making sure my partner is enjoying herself to the fullest and i have to truly believe that they came first to be able to myself. Making a girl happy is a myth to some because they never truly tried in my opinion.
I personally dislike the type of guys who talk about women as they would be an amazing theme park ride, wild ride, 'slam that ass', 'tap that', etc,. These guys i know are not the type of guys i know would take care of a woman in bed and appease her requirements. This might be socially acceptable but i hate it, and it is a reason that i avoid guys like that. I assume that these guys are smart enough to not talk like this in front of women, but if you have a guy friend that you trust get him to follow them to the washroom or have him hang with them etc., as a way to weed the rotten ones out.
Good luck with the issue.
wadekid13201 days ago
Answer 4 of 6
I think this mainly has to do with who y...
I think this mainly has to do with who you're hooking up and more specifically, the kind've relationship you have with them.
I'm gonna have to agree with you, that most guys aren't nearly as interested in getting the girl off, as they are about getting off themselves. But I think it mainly applies to "hook-ups" and "one night stands". Basically, any time you're hooking up with someone, but don't have feelings for them. This is because that's the very nature of that kind've relationship...you're only in it for sexual pleasure.
When it's with someone who you have feelings for, for instance a girlfriend, someone you like, etc.. Then I think it's different. Atleast for me, I always WANT to make sure she's getting as much pleasure from it as I am. It turn's me on to see my girl get off, I love it.
I do think that it has to do with the kinds of guys you're hooking up with. Find guys that respect women, that aren't complete assholes, and that aren't just out there looking to get some ass every night. Those are the kinds of guys that will be sexually more giving...
StillFiguringItOut201 days ago
Answer 5 of 6
It's not really that much fun if she isn...
It's not really that much fun if she isn't into it, or getting off too (should she want to)... the more you give, the more you get.
sexpert201 days ago
Answer 6 of 6
There are men out there that worship wom...
There are men out there that worship women. They love pussies. They will eat you out until the sun comes up. They will finger you, and spend hours on foreplay until you are practically begging them to put on a condom and f*** you silly.
There are guys that measure their masculinity not by how many times they can cum in a night, or how many girls they sleep with, but measure it by how many times they can get a girl to orgasm, or how much pleasure he can give her (if orgasms are not always possible). There are men that care more about getting a girl off than having an orgasm themselves.
I know, I've slept with a couple of them. They just make you love yourself, and love your body. They will lay down after sex and run their hands over your body and go "I like this freckle. It's in exactly the perfect spot" and "your breasts are the most perfect breasts I have ever seen, because they're yours". It sounds kinda cheesy if I write it, but to have a guy just WORSHIP your body is an amazing feeling, and you can't help but catch a little bit of the fever.
So I think you might be sleeping with the wrong guys. So how do you recognize these women adoring, selfless lovers? Umm... I'm not 100% sure. I don't really actively seek them out, it's just that I'm naturally attracted to a certain kind of personality that must have a higher incidence pussy worshiping.
The type of guy that I personally have come across that is like this is someone who respects women all the time. These guys love women from head to toe. You won't see them picking apart other women in front of you or being overly critical. They tend to see women as all unique treasures to be opened up and discovered. And in my experience, they tend to surround themselves with strong and confident women. They will listen to you, because they are genuinely interested in you, not just what they can get out of you.
In my experience, they care what other people think of them, not in a physical way (they might not fuss about small things), but they care that you think they are a good person. Essentially, they value other human beings and you'll notice it.
These are not the guys that talk about what girls are worthy or not worthy of their attentions. These are the guys that see 90% of women as beautiful in their own way, and even if they wouldn't sleep with 90% of the women that they come across, they can at least understand why someone else would find them attractive, and so do not degrade them.
They also care about you outside of the bedroom. Do they make sure that your needs are being met? Do they check if you have a ride home? Do they ask if you want anything to eat or drink? Do they offer to get your coat for you, etc.
Find those men that make you feel like an amazing person outside of the bedroom, and in my experience, you're going to find the men that make you feel like a goddess in the bedroom.
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