First Date
First Date Follow Up
I met this guys last week while I was out at the bar. We talked for a little while, then at the end of the night, he asked me out and I gave him my number. He was cute and seemed like fun,so I was looking forward to the date. We went out 2 nights ago and had a really great time. I'm definitely hoping he asks me out again, but I haven't heard from him since...
Now I know that there's this whole stigma about calling too soon, so i understand that there's a chance that he'll still call me, but I was wondering if there's anything I should do preemptively. I was thinking about sending a cute text...something like "I had a lot of fun the other night! Drinks this weekend?"...kind've taking the initiative instead of waiting on him. Or I was thinking about writing something clever about something we talked about on his facebook wall.
What do you think? any other ideas or advice?
DateDaily198 days ago
Answer 1 of 4
Personally, I think that he hasn't calle...
Personally, I think that he hasn't called because he's not interested.
When a guy is interested, he doesn't care about fumbling around, he just wants to be around you. And this guy doesn't seem to be having that issue.
I think you should consider the possibility that he's not interested and let it go.
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Studley Do Right198 days ago
Answer 2 of 4
I think Sexpert nailed it. Most of the ...
I think Sexpert nailed it. Most of the time us guys are sitting around clueless. We are stressing on when and what to say to the girl, wondering if she is interested, and secretly hoping she contacts us first to save the trouble.
If you really had a good time and want to make sure you get together again I would just send something exactly like you suggested in your original post. As a guy, if I received a message from a girl like that after a date, I'd be pretty happy and excited (assuming I am interested). Most girls don't take that initiative and I would think it's pretty cool. I would most likely respond by saying something like, "I did too, how about I call you Thursday and we figure it out?"
I'm assuming that's probably the response you're looking for when sending your initial message and that's exactly what you would get if the guys interested.
If he's not interested then he'll somehow avoid getting drinks and you'll get the clue. Of course that's a bummer but at least you know that you can stop wasting your time and sitting next to your phone all week hoping for him to call. Just a little reminder though, if he says he can't get together this weekend, don't automatically assume he doesn't like you. He may very well have something he has to attend. I would just make a mental note and try again for another night. If a pattern starts to form then I think you can make the assumption that he's not interested and to move on.
sexpert199 days ago
Answer 3 of 4
Half the time guys are just stumbling ar...
Half the time guys are just stumbling around clueless in the dark going "I wonder what she wants me to do next?". I'm biased, because I'm a very blunt and straight forward person, and I find that works wonders. When I want something, I ask for it, and then usually (when I'm being reasonable) I get it. Then I'm all thankful and grateful, and everyone feels good.
Of course, you don't want to be overbearing or bossy, but a cute little text that says "had fun, want to get some drinks this weekend?" is perfectly reasonable.
Trust your instincts with this one. If you had fun, he probably had fun. If you felt chemistry, he probably felt it too. If you're thinking about him, maybe, just maybe, he's thinking about you.
I know so many people who say that the value a person who is self-confident and who is just themselves. Be confident, and do what your heart is telling you, which is to text the guy and say something that will make him smile all day.
Congrats on the good date, keep us updated.
scarlettewiththerope199 days ago
Answer 4 of 4
Personally, I way prefer when a guy is c...
Personally, I way prefer when a guy is chasing me; that way he's had to decide he's definitely interested and there's none of this wishy washy 'does he like me?' business. But I have very little patience for drama, games, or any... wishy washiness lol. If I'm in your situation, I'll usually do something completely innocuous, like sending a text that's only a ":-P" face or something. It's enough to remind him that hey, I'm alive, and yeah, I'm thinking about him, without placing any particular requests on him. If he likes me, he'll respond, and probably make plans; if he's just busy, he's more likely to remember to get in touch when he has time; if he doesn't like me, he can ignore it. Easy peasy :D
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