The Ex
Starting to miss her...
It's been a few months now since I broke up with my ex-girlfriend. She was so important to me and I was madly in love with her, but I knew clear and well the reasons why we broke up, and there was no question in my mind that it was the right thing to do. Since we broke up, I've been doing pretty well. I think mainly because I focused on the reasons why it was happening, instead of how much I missed her. I was moving on but now all of the sudden somethings changed for me. I don't what it is, but I'm finding myself missing her A LOT. I want to tell her that. I want to go meet up with her for lunch, or drinks and catch up. I want to see her, hug her, just touch her. I I have no idea why this is happening or what I should do. It's clearly too soon to reconsider our relationship...we are the same people today as we were when we broke up and we need more than a few months for that to change. I think it would be unfair/confusing to her if I was to ask for plans. But I can't help this feeling everyday and its driving me a little crazy.
What should I do?
immilla50 days ago
Answer 1 of 2
It's quite simple actually.. Tell HER how you feel. I think it could be a huge release cause I know how those kinds of feelings can start to eat away at you. I wouldn't say anything about the future though or getting back together yet because I think you're right when you say it may be confusing to her. But I don't think there's anything wrong with telling someone you cared for that you miss them or whatever. I think people are scared of feeling "weak" sometimes, but in my opinion it takes more strength to share your honest feelings. I'll just say this... I've never regretted telling someone how I feel but I have regretted NOT telling them. Hope everything works out! And know that we've all been there. Good luck!!!
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MC42350 days ago
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I think this is a common thing. It's happened to me before. I think you need to hold out and resist these feelings for a week or two.
Several weeks or months after a breakup people start craving the need to be with someone again. If no one has come around in that time, your thoughts start going back to your ex.
If you had moved, changed something significant in your life, or met someone very interesting in the past few months, these feelings would never be around. However, you said not much has changed in the time apart.
Wait a couple weeks and reanalyze your thoughts and emotions. If the feeling is still there then maybe you act on it. But I think all of this is just a natural part of the moving on phase. You also have to remember that if you decide to contact her again, you have to be 100% sure that's what you want. You can't start flip-flopping your thoughts and emotions with her because that's not fair and it will drive both of you crazy.
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