The Ex
sEX Fantasies.
It's been a couple of months since my ex and I broke up.. and the thing I've found myself thinking about the most is sleeping with him. The sex was so good before we stopped seeing each other and although it would probably be a bad idea to hook up with him now, especially after all the progress I've made, it's difficult to get the idea out of my head. Girls have needs too...
What should I do?
oohlookasquirrel50 days ago
Answer 1 of 3
come up with new fantasies!
I know this situation is probably resolved by now, but I wanted to mention my advice for anyone in a similar situation, since people are always trying to get over exes.
When I'm horny and getting tired with my usual fantasies, I find some erotica or porn to help me come up with new inspiration on things I'd like to try or new scenarios I might not have considered. Susie Bright, Violet Blue, and Rachel Kramer Bussel are editors of some quality collections of written erotica on many subjects, and they're all reasonably priced. Not every story will do it for you (because we all have different tastes), but I'm sure you'll find something you like. Maybe you could explore a kink you've never really looked into before. There's probably an online community for whatever it is you're into, whether it's naked firefighters or balloons or double penetration.
You could also concentrate your efforts on learning new sexual "tricks". Are you interested in trying anal sex? Order a silicone butt plug and get to know how your ass works so you won't be scared to do it with a partner. Have you ever explored your g-spot or had a g-spot orgasm? You could read up on female ejaculation (not a myth!) and try to learn to do it yourself. You could work on your kegels and make sure that your muscles are super strong. You could get a new sex toy or learn to get yourself off with just your fingers, if you're a vibrator sort of girl. I'm sure there are other options, but that's all I've got for now.
Instead of fantasizing about an ex who you know is no good for you, why not broaden your horizons and come up with some new fantasies and sexual interests? It will help you get over the ex, and you'll learn something about yourself in the process.
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immilla223 days ago
Answer 2 of 3
You have a couple of options here... 1...
You have a couple of options here...
1) SLEEP WITH SOMEONE ELSE
Maybe it's just sex you want and not necessarily sex with him. Sleeping with another person may calm your urge to want to jump his bones... Or I guess it could be just the opposite too. Maybe you are still attached and crave that emotional connection during sex that you may not have with some other guy... Then that gets kind of sticky. You don't wanna fall back into an unhealthy pattern.
2) HATE FUCK
I don't know what kind of terms you two ended on though... or if (no offense) he is interested in still sleeping with you to begin with.
3) BOOTY CALL HIM
Girls can do it too! And, depending on where you are emotionally, girls CAN detach themselves during sex. Just call him up and be like, "listen.. I need have sex and i'm just putting that out there for you..let me know if you're interested."
4) MASTURBATE...A LOT
MC423224 days ago
Answer 3 of 3
Clever title! This situation sucks and l...
Clever title! This situation sucks and let me tell ya, I've been there before. I think maybe its cuz once you've broken up, and all the pressure of the relationship and all the problems and stress have disappeared, the sex just gets incredible. In my experience though it's always a bad idea. Especially with you saying that you've been doing well, which I assume means you're moving on, it's probably a major step backwards.
You said "girls have needs too...". It's more than just girl's having needs, it's human beings having needs...we crave sexual contact. We were built in order to procreate ("do it"). Its natural for you to have strong sexual desires towards him, but it's probably in your best interest to suppress them.
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