Communication in a Relationship
How often do you say "I love you?"
I'm currently in a relationship where my bf loves me dearly, but never says it. Well, he never says the phrase "I love you". He says it in other ways, and this is just fine with me. We're on the same page.
However, I was wondering how often other people say it. What occasion always gets you to say it? For example, ending a phone conversation, saying goodbye in the morning, after making love, after your partner gives you a gift?
Is there such thing as too little or too much? Are there times when you need to hear it? Are there times when it annoys you?
Red15203 days ago
Answer 1 of 3
We basically say it constantly.... O...
We basically say it constantly....
Occasions that spark the phrase:
- Saying Goodbye
- Phone Conversation
- At night before we go to sleep
- Sometimes when he knows I'm irritated, to make me smile
I don't think there's ever too much "love". There are definitely times when I want/need to hear it, and thankfully - he knows when those times are. It never irritates me to hear him tell me he loves me.
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steveo7209 days ago
Answer 2 of 3
For me, theres kindve 2 different ways o...
For me, theres kindve 2 different ways of saying it to my gf. Theres the routine I love you and the real I love you. The routine I love you is always out of habit and is pretty much meaningless. I'm talking about the end of a phone call or IM, or after a kiss goodnight, or when she leaves to go do something and gives me a little a peck on the lips. This is routine...its done so regularly because we've been raised in a society where that is the norm. In my opinion though, when something that's normally so meaningful and deep, becomes so routine, it loses it's meaning.
Which brings me to the other way of saying it, the real I love you. This is that kind've "look her in the eyes and say it slowly" way...and maybe even tack on a sincere "so much" at the end. This one carries weight, its sincere, and romantic. It's said on special occasions (anniversaries, birthdays, etc..), after sex, on a romantic date, during some intimate alone time etc..
Small Fry210 days ago
Answer 3 of 3
I've never been in a relationship that's...
I've never been in a relationship that's gotten to the point of saying "I love you". I'm a younger guy tho so I'm in no rush to be honest.
When I'm talking to people like family...I always make a point to say "I love you" before I leave or hang up any phone call. Even if we get into an argument on the phone call I still say it. To me it's a way of reminding them that no matter what happens, I still love them.
I also have the mentality that you never know when the last time you'll have the chance to say that to them. God forbid something happen, I don't want to have to look back and think that I never had the chance to say "I love you" to them.
