Sex and Society
Phone-Sex Work
So I'm in a bit of a tight spot at the moment when it comes to finding a job. I'm also very comfortable with sex and sexuality. As such, I've been considering submitting an application to a phone-sex company. I'm comfortable with what I'd be doing, that's not my issue, my issue is how to get started in this field. So, I pose to you all the following questions:
-How would I break it to my loved ones that I'm considering (and even looking forward to) this kind of employment? I live with my mother while attending college, and I doubt I'd be able to keep my occupation a secret. What I'm most worried about is my boyfriend.
-For those of you that have used Phone Sex services, what did your 'provider' do right? What did they do wrong? Is there anything specific about their personality that struck a chord?
-Phone Sex Work is still sex work, even if it is really low level. Are there any general tips about working in the sex industry I should know?
Thank you all for your consideration.
Simone de Boudoir113 days ago
Answer 1 of 4
I work as an escort and I thought I'd tr...
I work as an escort and I thought I'd try a little foray into the world of phone sex. It's not for me. I suck suck suck at turning men on verbally with no visual cues as to how they're responding.
Basically, as a phone sex operator you want to sell yourself--so make up a sexy new persona, even if it's NOTHING like what you look like or are: ie barely-legal teen, or sassy dominatrix
You want to keep your personal life out of it, though certainly you can use your own experiences for material. Basically, you're just going to be telling them stories about how you had sex with your best friend in the shower (even if you didn't), etc.
To make money, you want to keep them on the line, so the juicier the story, the better, but you have to be able to draw it out, you don't want them to blow their load 30 seconds in, or else you won't make any money.
There are a couple of websites where you can charge what you want and the website takes a cut, Talk Sugar is one such site.
Basically, you give them the number that you want your potential clients to call, they turn it into a 1-800 number so that your real number is never given out, and you just log on to the site when you want to work and turn your phone on. If you have a cell phone, you can literally do it anywhere. So you don't even have to be at home.
If you are worried about your families reaction to your new job, you can always explain that it is entirely hands off, you're just telling them dirty stories over the phone. I mean, most parents are going to be most concerned with your safety and as a phone sex operator, as long as you don't give out personal details or your actual number, you're safe as pie. There is no physical contact, and no way for clients to find you.
If you are worried about them not being okay with it on a moral basis, you can always lie. It is your life, and you don't have to answer to anyone. And if you do decide to tell them, you may be surprised at their response. When I told my mother I was a sex worker she actually said, "well I'm glad you have the courage to take advantage of such a goldmine."
Best of luck, and let us know how it goes! Also if you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me!
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BevZab120 days ago
Answer 2 of 4
Go for it...but...
...what you need to do is keep it out of the house. You need to not bring work into your homeplace, and I think that works for just about any kind of work at all.
Phone sex is harder than it sounds, and you may find it pales pretty quickly. Tell your family your job is something like "sales redirection" and make it sound as boring as possible, minimize your income and so on. In other words, yes, lie. If nothing else, it's no one else's business but yours.
Best of luck!
sexpert134 days ago
Answer 3 of 4
Find a friend in the Industry
The best thing you can do is to find someone who is currently in the industry and get the low down. You'll find out tips for how to get the guy to stay on the line the longest (which is good if you are paid on commission), and they can also tell you what to expect.
As for safety, this is something that happens with every person in sex work, you develop relationships with your regulars. You get to know them as people, and sometimes, even though they are paying an insane amount per minute, if they have the opportunity to ask for you each time, eventually they might want to talk about other things than sex. In sex work, being a therapist is like your second job. Be prepared for this, and establish your own boundaries beforehand. Are you comfortable giving out true information about yourself (even if it is just likes and dislikes, or the fact that you are a student)? Are you comfortable giving out fake information about yourself?
I know some sex workers (in fact most) that know that when they go to work, they are putting on a different persona, they are pretending to be someone else to some extent. When you are a stripper or a prostitute and you go to work, you use a different name, and you're not someone who has just been dumped, or someone that has to pay bills, you are Sexy Super Girl who if the life of the party and that everyone wants to be around. Decide what you want your alternative persona to be. Have fun with it.
The last thing is that you want to make sure that this will not negatively affect you in the future. Find out from your employer how easily it would be for other people to find out your employment history. If you ever want to be a teacher or politician, this kind of stuff might matter (whether that is fair or not).
As for telling your mom, if I were in your situation, I wouldn't (but then again, my mom would have a mental breakdown). I would say that I had a job at a call center, and when I come home tell her what happened at work, but switch some of the details. Instead of saying that there was a guy that called up and had a really fun kink that amused you, just say "I had a really great customer, he called, and he was really funny. It took awhile to solve his problem, but it wasn't a big deal, because you enjoyed his company so much." Although, that's just with my mom. Your mom might be more down with it. You know her, and it's your decision.
I would tell your bf though. I think that's part of the whole "honesty with your partner" thing. PinkRoses covered the bases in terms of assurance with him. If he's been dating you for awhile, he's probably prepared for you to do something like this.
And btw, let us know how it goes! If you do get the job, then please share with us your wisdom when it comes to phone sex, I would love to pick up some tips and get an inside scoop on the industry.
PinkRoses134 days ago
Answer 4 of 4
Always be the best at what you do...even if it's phone sex
I really respect you asking for advice before jumping into a new career I've always been a true believer that if you decide to do something, you should strive to be the very best at it. Regardless of what it is. There's no better way to learn than to seek advice from others.
I don't think there is a need to express that you're actually looking forward to it haha. You can keep that to yourself, your friends, and the Leftos community. The good thing about it being phone sex is that no one will ever know who you are, you can disguise your voice a little, and no one will see you either. It's not like stripping. So if you're honest to your mom, boyfriend, whoever...and tell them just like you would tell them about anything else. Explain it pays good, it's easy work, there's no risk involved, and so forth..you should be fine. Your moms biggest concern is probably your safety so make sure that you assure her that. Your boyfriends concern is you giving other men attention. Tell him it's just like acting and you won't even know who or what the guys look like. There's no actually intimate relationship.
I don't have any experience in phone sex but I did recently watch a Real Sex episode on HBO where they showed the work of a couple women who do phone sex. It was a little over the type because it's obviously HBO and these women took their job to the next level...but I think you could learn a couple things from it because one woman describes her strategies at getting men excited. I'll try to find a link of the episode and shoot you a PM with it.
I've never personally worked in the sex industry but I think the biggest tips or for your own safety. Since you'll be working for a company and it will be over the phone, I don't think you have much to worry about. Just make sure you choose a reputable company. In this industry, I would personally want to work for less money with a reputable and safe company rather than make a couple extra bucks with some shady unknown firm.
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