First Date
Help with planning first dates...?
I keep hearing on this site and many other places that it's not the best idea to make a first date so serious. Don't take the lady to dinner where your forced to sit their and face uncomfortable forced conversation. The other side of the spectrum is going to a movie where you don't even interact. So what are some good middle of the road examples for a first date? What can we do so we interact but the setting doesn't force uncomfortable forced conversation?
sex-lies-dating135 days ago
Answer 1 of 5
Here's something I wrote a while ago: T...
Here's something I wrote a while ago: Top 7 First Date Ideas. http://www.sex-lies-dating.com/3073621
It was a very popular post and has been reposted in a bunch of places.
In short, I think that "traditional" date ideas like dinner or movies are both bad ideas. I want to keep my time obligation short, with the option to expand it if the date is going well.
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questionsgirl187 days ago
Answer 2 of 5
I agree with Oohlooky.. Baseball game, ...
I agree with Oohlooky..
Baseball game, Fair, Festival, Ice Skating...sounds cheesy..but definately breaks the ice..
Kyle Miracle187 days ago
Answer 3 of 5
A well-planned date is great; a well-pla...
A well-planned date is great; a well-planned date with the flexibility to change the plan is even better. Don't overthink the plan either, do what you want to do.
I like to cook good food, so for a first date I'll cook in fun competition with her. This gives us the opportunity to shop for the ingredients, flirt and tease each other (competitively but playfully) and get comfortable at either my place or hers.
So find something you enjoy doing and invite (and possibly her friends) along. Remember, the more comfortable YOU are, the more comfortable she will be.
oohlookasquirrel191 days ago
Answer 4 of 5
I think the best first dates are public ...
I think the best first dates are public places with lots of stuff to do and see, like a state/county fair, zoo, renaissance fair, amusement park, haunted house, apple/berry/pumpkin picking, music festival, etc. Places where you can talk as much or as little as you want to. Conversation topics are always supplied by the action around you, but you could easily find a place to sit and chat if you want. You'll also get a good sense of the person by what they want to do, because there are a lot of options. Do they want to try all the snacks, or browse the gift shops, or run around and make sure they see everything offered before it closes? Do they just want to find a bench and talk? Do they want to ride all the rides, or read every informational plaque?
Of course, most of these places are biased towards summertime, outdoor events. I suppose you could go to concerts in the wintertime, or walk around a nice neighborhood with lots of shops and places to get snacks or maybe even street performers. You'll have to look in your local papers to find out what's going on in your own city, but I'll bet there's something to do in most places if you look hard enough.
NeurOG248 days ago
Answer 5 of 5
Coffee, shopping, people watching, museu...
Coffee, shopping, people watching, museums, art galleries...
There's a million things to do that are light, fun, and don't force awkwardness. I personally like to meet at places like sports bars so we can have a few drinks and just shoot the shit. Get someone drunk and you'll learn a lot about them.
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