The Wedding
How involved are guys in the wedding?
I say, it's her day. She's been planning this forever. Your job is to show up for fittings, rehearsals, the wedding, and the honeymoon. Trust me, you'll be glad you did.
We had a friend who got married last year. They were engaged for 2 years, and the wife had an activity planned for every weekend the whole 2 years. It started with locations. Then it was dresses, cakes, flowers, menus, and invitations.
The husband knew his job. He showed up on cue. They had one of the best weddings I've ever been to. Of course, she is an only child and her parents both had fantastic jobs.
sexpert280 days ago
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Then what do gay guys do when they get m...
Then what do gay guys do when they get married?
I think it depends on the couple. I'm the idea person, and my bf is the organizer. If we were to ever get married, I would come up with the ideas, run it past him, and he would probably have a big role in helping to make my dream a reality. Although I might get to pick out the dress, he will probably be the one fussing over the font to use on the invitations and asking my opinion on which one looks better, and whether to do them just in English or to add a Russian or Dutch translation. He's so cute that way. But that's just us.
If I was dating someone different, it would be completely different. You have to work with the strengths of both the people involved. If one partner is a better planner, than the couple should make use of that organizational skill. If one partner really doesn't care about something specific (like flower arrangements, or invitations) then the other can pick up the slack. I guess it also depends on if you have a control freak in the relationship or not. I know some people who would need every detail run by them, others, that would just want everything done for them.
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Studley Do Right280 days ago
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I think everyone has an image of what th...
I think everyone has an image of what they want their wedding to be like...even guys. With that said, the thought of ever planning something like that makes me sick to my stomach. I'll definitely let my wife take the lead and move out of her way.
I agree this is somewhat of a generalization because it's really just case by case. Some people care so much about this stuff while others don't. I'm sure with all these recent TV shows about throwing big parties (like the sweet 16 one on MTV), people have these huge expectations.
The most I want to get involved with is making sure that everyone I want to be there is invited, the food is good, and the music is good. I don't care what the food or music is...just as long as it's good. The only reason why I say that is that I've been to many weddings and many times you go because you have to and not because you really care. I would be naive to think my wedding will be different. Outside of close friends and family a lot of people will be there just cause it's what they are "suppose to do". With that said, the least I can provide them is a good meal with some good music. I don't want them to leave and say, "wow, not only did I not want to go to that but I rather have ate Mcdonalds and listened to Cher all night"
scarlettewiththerope280 days ago
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I think this is waaaay too generalized. ...
I think this is waaaay too generalized. If I ever choose to get married, I expect the person I'm marrying to participate in the planning. I haven't been planning a wedding my whole life. Actually, I'm kind of baffled by women who do... it seems kind of sad to me to pin all your hopes, dreams, and happiness on one day, one event. But that's me. Everybody is different, and that goes for couples, and if they want their nuptials too. I am curious to hear how many people still feel this way though :)
