Foreplay
Men need to understand the value of foreplay
Men have the gift to get excited pretty damn fast and once they get there, it's not much work to finish the whole process off. For us women, it's a little more complicating. Our thought process has to be right, we have to be in the mood, and then on top of that you have to be hitting our "spot" (which is an issue of its own).
Men are always looking to find out how they can give their ladies the big "O" and women are always complaining about not be able to have one. The key is FOREPLAY. The female mind must ready for the ride. Once a woman is ready for that, she can now start building up towards that. Getting the mind exciting and building up for the rush. Think of a rollercoaster and the work/energy it goes through to get to the top of the hill...this is what must be done to a woman's mind to give her enough "oomph" to go in for the rush down hill.
Men (and women) need to focus on foreplay. Don't just jump right into the sex. Yes, sex is still great if you just jump right in but it's most likely going to be like a simple rollercoaster ride....some ups and downs but nothing extreme. Start with foreplay, build the rush up, work your way up the rollercoaster. THEN use sex as the last effort (tool in the process) to fully push her over the edge and into that big "O".
I have heard it from all my friends and I know it from my own experience...men are going to be considered a whole lot better in bed when they know how to get us going in foreplay. The sex is just going to be 100 times better. If you can figure out how to get us going, there's probably a good chance we will be inviting you over again.
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TheDude304 days ago
Yea, this a BIG insight that guy's should listen up to. Through my experiences I've found this to be one thing that most guy's overlook. Spend some time focusing on foreplay, tending to her, making her orgasm...and she's gonna return the favor (with a solid effort) or follow it up with some great sex. Either way, it'll pay off. Don't overlook foreplay, cuz the girl's sure as hell don't.
sexpert261 days ago
I would also just like to add that everything that Serendipity said is right, but foreplay can also be enhancing for men as well. Afterall, gay men's relationships benefit from foreplay, and there are no women involved there! Foreplay is beneficial for guys in both a physical and emotional way.
Let's face it: guys have emotions! If you are having sex with someone that you like, having attention lavished upon you, and lavishing attention on them, makes you feel damn good!
The other thing, is that as much as many men's penises may physically get ready for sex rather quickly, it does not mean that having sex right away is what feels best. Men also benefit from the roller coaster rush that Serendipity talks about, and, I know at least for my guy, having an erection, and being aroused and stimulated longer, can make the final orgasm just that much more intense and satisfying.
Think about it guys, you know that not all orgasms are built the same. When you masturbate, you're probably going to do so rather quickly, and the purpose is just to let off some steam. Now think about the orgasm you have after sex and how much more satisfying and intense it is. Being aroused for longer can help a guy increase how intense his orgasm is, so girls/guys, don't you want your male partner to have as great an orgasm as you? Do him a favour and space out the pleasure. It's worth it!
studmuffin253 days ago
personally i do enjoy foreplay, sex without it is just less and removes meaning from the act. for a one night stand this may be different, i assume there would be some foreplay is required but probably to less of an extent than in a relationship. if there is no foreplay before the fun it just becomes like masturbating and becomes less than it usually would be.
i pride myself on making my partner feel good and i try to make sure that she climaxes before i do... it just makes me feel a bit better than reaching my point first. it is not a race to see who cums first but it should be mutual.
Albedo253 days ago
Ok I think I have waxed lyrical about amazingness that is foreplay in other threads on this site, but I suppose you can never have too much foreplay.
Even if there is not much of a relationship spending a good long time making out as the clothes slowly start to peal off is one of the simple pleasures that too many people overlook. The delay of pleasure and a slower buildup always makes for more intense orgasms on both sides. Also as good as an orgasm is it is a bit fleeting. I have said it before but the aggregate pleasures of foreplay and sex are often as good as the destination.
Oh and the emotional bonding is amassing too.
ma4t233 days ago
Foreplay - can't say enough about it.
Locker room stories of 45 minutes of hard core intercourse are a disservice to young men.
I also think that foreplay can start way before you get in bed. Dancing, cuddling, etc. Eating dinner can be incredibly sensual. I'm sure most guys, when they are young and inexperienced, have pumped like an oil rig and got off, only to find out that she's just warming up.
It mainly shows you're paying attention to her. You're not just hear to take something, you're also here to give. If you plan to have a long-term relationship at all, foreplay.
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