Flirting
Don't send me photos of your penis!
I love Craigslist. There, I said it. I read the missed connections, and I read the casual encounters (mainly the m4w). I also post in the casual encounters section whenever I feel the urge and none of my current lovers is available.
Craiglist is a veritable goldmine of fun, in a number of different ways. Whenever I post looking for a casual hookup, I like to count how many cock shots I get overall. It's always fascinated me why guys send women shots of their penis. As a woman, I don't give a shit. A cock is a cock is a cock. If it works, and is disease free, we are good to go. Also, a photo of your cock tells me NOTHING about what you might be like in bed, except that you think that sending me that shot is enough to win me over. It's not. In fact, anyone who replies to my CL ad with a cock shot gets deleted (I often wish my computer would flash a giant DELETED! sign at me with Strong Bad's voice whenever I do this).
Following cock shots, anyone who replies and doesn't know what grammar and spelling are, gets deleted (unless you also followed my rule about attaching a face shot, and I can see that English is probably not your first language). After that, if you reply to me and give me body stats and the oh-so-generic line "I'm interested, hit me back!" you're deleted. Of course you're interested, you and every other desperate guy on CL is interested. Give me something to work with here guys! For the most part, I don't give a shit what you look like because your personality is much more important to me. I dig men with brains and senses of humour. Show me you've got some and you'll probably get a reply, it's that simple.
Some stats: Out of the 70+ replies I received from my last Craiglist adventure, I replied to...wait for it...5! That's atrocious. I know that more than 5 of those replies were most likely decent guys, but you present yourselves in all the wrong ways!
I know you probably think that the ads from women are bots or spam, but they're not always! It really doesn't take much to write a decent reply to a CL ad. Mention things from the ad, to prove you actually read it! Attach a shot of your face! Show some personality! Mention your interests or what you like in bed (though please do not send me your version of erotica!). Try to come across as a human being and not some asshole who is going to make me feel like hooking up with you was the worst possible choice I could have made.
Comments (4)
scarlettewiththerope96 days ago
AHAHA! So true. I'm posting a link to this on my profile on collarme next time I'm on.
What is with the cock shot anyway? Any men care to enlighten me as to the thinking that goes into this? Is it as simple as men like to look at boobs so women should like to look at cocks? Because I'm pretty heterosexual and 9 times out of 10 would rather look at picture of boobs than cocks.
sexpert95 days ago
Yeah, I like cocks. I really do. They are fun and interesting, and I like to play with them. But they aren't that nice to look at. They are fun to touch, to hold, to suck, or ride, but visually, unless I am already in love with you, I don't like to just sit there and look at it.
Like Simone de Boudoir, I don't get attracted to penises, I get attracted to personality, courtesy, respect, and especially people who I feel like they could teach me something. Sending me a pic of your penis only tells me that you really like your penis. Which pretty much means your a standard guy. Great insight.
Besides, if you're just treating yourself like a body part, then why would you treat me any different? This is not to say that NSA sex is bad, it's just that I like to feel a CONNECTION with people that I sleep with. This usually means something a little deeper than "wow, you have a penis".
BritishGuy83 days ago
Pfft you women are so spoilt nowadays you should be glad if I was willing to send you a picture of Bernard :p
machinegunner30 days ago
if i send a girl a picture of my cock, it means one thing: this is what i have to work with and no your not going to get it. That being said, I would much rather show the ladies my personality and whats on the inside rather than what I'm working with. And girls don 't send me pictures of your chest or pussy, if i want to see those, its in person and not on the computer or phone.