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What the f*ck? Were you seriously about to give me a hickey?!

Back in college, I was at a house party with a friend of mine. She met some guy, they talked all night, and later on she ended up at his place. When I see her the next day, somethings off..she's acting weird. More specifically, she's wearing a collared shirt and making a point to hide her neck from everyone. Hmmm....interesting....so I asked.."Hey, whats up with your neck". She pull's down her collar, and bam...her entire neck looks like it got into a fight with a vaccum cleaner. Of course I'm talking about Hickeys -- those god awful reminders of last nights mistake.

If I had a nickel for every hickey I saw in college, I'd gather them up and throw em' at all the A-holes out there giving em'. Honestly, I'm so confused by it. Do people actually derive some sort of pleasure out of forcefully sucking on someones neck? Is it out of some twisted sense of dominance? or is similar to a dog taking a piss on a mailbox --- someones way of saying "_____ was here".

I've been there. Waking up, hungover, only to look in the mirror and wonder "how the hell did I let that happen?". Then going through the pain in the ass of hiding it for the next couple days. The last time it happened, I caught the girl red-handed, in the act, right as she was starting the heavy sucking. I promptly hit the pause button, pulled back and said "woah, what the f*ck are you doing? Were you seriously about to give me a hickey?!". The look on her face....oh it was priceless.

There's just absolutely no logical reason to give someone a hickey (unless they want one...which would confuse me even more). All it does is inconvenience and embarrass them...so, people, listen up. Stop giving Hickeys. It's not cool.

By the way...that friend of mine from the beginning of this little rant...just so happened to have her family visiting that day. Her whole family. Including her grandparents. Ouch.

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Albedo234 days ago

Prepare to be confused. I like getting hickeys. Just be considerate and keep them below the collar-bone. I like looking in the mirror and thinking back on the experience. It is a bit of a possessive thing to do, but that is ok with me. In fact I kind of like the power exchange aspect of it.

When I am the mood i will sometimes give hickeys too. I am considerate and don't pot them anywhere that wouldn't be covered by moderately conservative clothes.

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PinkRoses234 days ago

There is nothing wrong with a hickey unless it's on your freaking forehead. Be considerate like Albedo says and put it in a place that isn't so visible to the naked out. The last thing you want to do after meeting a guy you like is force him to living in a cave for three weeks because you decided to show a little too much affection.

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scarlettewiththerope234 days ago

Haha, oh hickeys! My neck is a MAJOR hot spot for me, so any attention there kinda short circuits my brain. When someone is giving me a hickey, I go nuts. I invested in turtle necks years ago, because for me, the trade off is worth it. Sure, it's a hassle, and a little immature, but it feels so damn good while its happening! And, I like giving them. If a guy doesn't want me to, no prob, but I like leaving marks on my partner, just like I enjoy their marks.

Now if I could only figure out how to keep them covered when I'm teaching swim lessons! Ugh, now THAT'S an awkward moment!

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BritishGuy225 days ago

Biting is just great to be honest I think its severely under rated.

I think it can be a nice compliment to kissing.

My favourite spots to put hickes are on the inner thigh and the neck. It's just that sort of you wake up and your fooling around trying to make her an hour late and you start going over parts of her body with your lips and then you just put your mouth on her inner thigh or neck breath a little and take a bite.. it's soooo natural.

The reason it's fun though is because it's like kissing is fine but you need something a bit more because the reaction you get has more venom in it and in bed thats a great thing.

Last girl I was with she used to react really well to her ears being nibbled, feeling heavy breathing on her neck, being kissed, licked or bit on her neck and she used to love dirty talk(she was an exchange student and man the accent went a lot way towards making it drip so it helped a lot).

I just think it's really worth trying to mix it up with a little biting and neck kissing etc. I'm in the situation where oftentimes I feel like I can't have fun with the women that don't respond to that.

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scarlettewiththerope225 days ago

Oh god, I LOVE biting. I love biting a lot. I still like the kissing, and the sucking, and the nibbling, I love all of it, but I don't believe you can ever really enjoy pleasure without pain.

BritishGuy225 days ago

I agree. I think the little touches in bed are just needed to be honest.

I mean its like when we were in missionary I used to graze her thighs with my hands slowly or when I was behind her with both of us on our sides I used to run my hand through her hair or trickle my fingers down her spine.

I think all of this stuff compliments penetration really well.

I'm a pretty big believer in being rough during sex. I think people get the wrong idea of pain in bed.

Being rough doesn't mean you want to hurt somebody it just means you want to push them.

Now if your behind her and fucking her pretty hard if your running your hand down her spine or playing with her hair or kissing and bite her neck and cheek its sort of an offset of sorts.

I think in bed contrasts are really fun. When your doing one thing it seems like your going down a one way street. When you add stuble touches to it your practically opening pandoras box.

Basically my advice has always been you have more than your penis to your body keep your mouth and hands busy too.

scarlettewiththerope225 days ago

You know, I think you'd find this interesting:
http://www.leftos.com/opinion/view/431

BritishGuy225 days ago

Thats an interesting subject not sure what to think really.

Does it speak to you?

scarlettewiththerope225 days ago

LOL guess you didn't read all of it; I posted it.

BritishGuy225 days ago

OK let me rephase the question.

Would you do it?

Some of that sounds right up your alley(loss of control) but you still don't give a clear answer to whether or not you would try it or if it intrigues you.

Seems more like your beating around the bush.. either that or my reading comprehension sucks.

I gues now you know Brits are bad at taking hints.

scarlettewiththerope225 days ago

:D Well, I think it was pretty clear about the fact that I have rape fantasies, after all, I did say "I’ll only expound on the reasons I have rape fantasies" and in a response to Albedo I said " I've only ever been with one person with whom I'd consider it ... It is a lot of trust to have with someone!"

I dunno, maybe it was just all too long for you ;)

Anyway, lol, yes it definitely intrigues me, and in the right situation (right person, right time, etc) yeah, I'd definitely do it.

BritishGuy225 days ago

lol hey its 3am shhh :P

No I was taking a look at it but you know its easy to say youd do something and a lot more difficult to do it.

I'm still not sure if you will come to do it.

I'm no psychological genius that specialises in your mind but while I can understand certain aspects of it would speak to you I wonder if the overall experience is something youd really like.

You know better than me of course but imagine you did the fake rape scenario. You would be helpless(which I think you'd really love) but at the same time if you do the whole rape thing wouldn't it be lacking the foreplay, biting kissing etc or would that be part of it too?

lol see I am right you are beating around the bush what would you want it to be like details woman :P

scarlettewiththerope225 days ago

LOL so you want my specific fantasy? I don't have time for that, I'm already late for meeting my friends because I've been talking to you! I'm walking away from the computer now, lol, if I have enough to drink I'll come back and air out a specific fantasy for all of you :D

BritishGuy225 days ago

Aww for all of us?! lol kidding

I'm just trying to work out how it might fit in with the rest of your routine.

Anyway nice talking to you, see you later.

BritishGuy225 days ago

Oh by the way you've probably already left but for when you get back I think I understand how you want your rape fantasy to be.

I just reread our convo and what you posted and drew the lines.. yes I'm slow :P

Sounds pretty sexy and fun actually if both of you know what your going for. Might take a few times to perfect actually.

I won't divulge any details about what I think it is because I may be wrong but you can tell us later on anyway :)

Simone de Boudoir225 days ago

Mmm rape fantasy.

scarlettewiththerope225 days ago

HAHA at both of you :)

If I'm still awake/slightly less drunk after I read everything else that's been posted since I went out I'll do a blurb on on of my fantasies. I have lots and lots, though, so we'll see if I can find something properly typical :D

BritishGuy, I'm very curious about what you're thinking! If you're not willing to divulge to the site at large you should at least send me a private message... cuz, you know, you can't say something like that and not give the details at least to the person it's about! Just saying.

:D

BritishGuy225 days ago

Im just thinking if I'm wrong I'm gonna sound like a jackass I'm not very good with all these fantasy things to be completely honest. I'll PM you but you have to keep the secret if its wrong lol.

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Simone de Boudoir225 days ago

Mmmm. Hickeys. A reminder of the fun you were having! Plus, I'm into biting. You bite my neck, I'll lose my shit. My mom has seen me with hickeys, she just shakes her head. I don't bother hiding them, they're a point of pride actually.

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StillFiguringItOut225 days ago

I don't like the idea of giving or getting hickeys... Biting, pulling, scratching, rug/rope burns, bruises, etc., all the 'rewards' of rough play, those are fine and looked fondly upon the next day :-) ...but I can't help but interpret a hickey as "branding", not something that 'just happened' during play, and to me that's not acceptable.

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sexpert225 days ago

It's an intense feeling. I don't like super hard hickeys, because then part of my brain goes "he/she is bursting blood vessels and damaging my skin". But incidental hickeys, just from biting and sucking and.... mmm.... sounds sexy.

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JillOfFandoms132 days ago

My boyfriend and I have done it to each other accidently (and on purpose, that one time...), but it hasn't been problem with the family finding out. Though there was that time my boyfriend's neck was brought up in a club meeting... but still, that was simple teasing on their part, and my boyfriend wasn't mad.

We both still enjoy neck play, but we've gotten better at not leaving marks. Having the mark the next day is a pleasure in its own way, but overall I'd prefer to avoid the hassle.

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