sexpert212 days ago

yeah, the basis of that is supposedly that bigger hips mean a wider vag. And yet, you won't find that same guy looking at a skinny girl with wide hips and saying she's loose.

Grr... I hate it when people try to use a woman's body or her sexuality as an insult. **** them and their ignorance. We need to stop chastising women for being healthy! Why don't we just go back to the whole "my dad owns my virginity and when a man asks my father for permission to marry me, what he is really asking for is permission to take my virginity". Because the only thing women have to offer this world is their virginity and a "tight" pussy.

sexpert212 days ago

Yeah, there seems to be this idea that women's pussies are just passive recepticals for penises. They are not passive. They react to you, and to stimulation. The other thing is that yes, they do stretch, but it's not permanent, after penetration, it goes back to normal, and it doesn't tend to "stretch" any larger than it needs to. So if you have a small dick, it will swell up and squeeze that small dick. If you have a bigger dick/penetrative tool, then it will stretch, but it will always be applying pressure.

Even in the super short term, I know that a guy has been penetrating me with a penis, and yes, I stretch to accommodate his member, but then if he switches to fingering, I quickly get tight again to accommodate his fingers. So even during one round of sexual activity, how tight or how loose I am depends on the tool being used.

In short - just give your girl orgasms, and you'll be fine. Even if they are clitoral instead of vaginal, just pleasure your girl (heck, she doesn't even NEED to have an orgasm), just give her pleasure, make her want you, and her body will take care of you.

scarlettewiththerope142 days ago

I'm so glad I've never heard that phrase, I'd probably hit anyone who said that in front of me.

...you know, that might be why I've never heard it.

Ugh on the things people think is ok!

sexpert142 days ago

I have a powerful story about that phrase. So we are sitting in my first year intro to sociology class with about 400 other people, and the prof does an entire 3 hour lecture just on rape and sexual assault. And she starts explaining why she is doing that, and talks about just how often it occurs, and how oblivious we are. And she brings up the example of the phrase "as tight as a 12 year old". She says that the phrase is obviously offensive, and so when she was 18 and she was with a group of friends and she heard one of her guy friends say that, she turned around and decked him.

Because 12 was the age she was when she was gang raped by her teenage neighbour and three of his friends. The first time she went to go see an OB/GYN, the doctor took one look at her and went completely white and with a soft voice asked "what happened here?" and she pretended like nothing had ever happened and that she had no idea what the doc was talking about.

Because we live in a society where sexual abuse is taboo, where victims are blamed, where pedophillic statements like "tight as a 12 year old" are tolerated, because no one means anything by it (supposedly) and where violence against women is so commonplace that we (as in women) don't even report sexual assaults or rapes.

So yeah, that was a life changing moment. It's the only time I've ever cried in a university class. I am so friggin' proud of that professor.