Moving in Together
How long would you need to date someone before you moved in with them?
This is an interesting question for me, because before I met my current partner, I would have said at least a year. However, our relationship just grew so steadily, and surely, and safely that it was only six months before I was ready to make that commitment. For the record, I just turned 23 on April 3rd (happy bday to me!) and my partner is turning 24 soon. Neither of us have lived with someone before.
I've been living with my partner for a year now, and things have been really awesome. I couldn't be happier. However, I also have a friend (which has been discussed in great detail) that got engaged to her bf after knowing him for about four months and dating for a month. She moved in with him after dating for two months. For me, I think this is way too fast, and destined to fail.
So I have figured out where my boundaries lie and when I think it's a good idea to move in with someone, but I was wondering how other people felt.
What time milestones or relationship milestones would you have to pass in order to feel comfortable moving in with someone? How is this related to your age, being a parent (or not) and your financial situation.
In short, when would you be ready to move in with someone?
thetitans150 days ago
Answer 1 of 2
Case by Case but Finances are very important too
I think it's definitely a case by case situation because a lot of it is not based on time but is based on relationship milestones. It's also something that's hard to put into words but it's more of a feeling and instinct. Clearly it's something that's extremely hard to gage because so many times relationships end after the couple moves in together.
I think it's important that people have their finances in order. You have to make sure that you're past the lust and puppy love stage of a relationship. It's also important to know and be comfortable with many details of your partners life - you can't have skeletons come falling out of the closet after you move in. I'm not saying it's good to have arguments but it's probably to have had a couple arguments in the past that you guys were able to overcome and grow stronger from. A couple that's never been in an argument has no idea if they can overcome obstacles they can't predict or foresee. Lastly, make sure your finances are fine. Make sure that someone is supporting the other right away. Finances can turn into relationship killers....even for marriages that have gone on for twenty years.
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Strongfp150 days ago
Answer 2 of 2
Feeling comfort.
It's not a question of time, it's a question of being completely comfortable. I know it's a huge step in a relationship, but it's something that really needs to be worked towards, if you reply on that person for lets say rent of just to get out of your parents house, is that really a good reason to just move in with them?
I think the biggest question is are you comfortable with your current partner to live with them? Are you comfortable with the finacial situation you are both in to take such a step?
I think alot about my future, and I would not move in with a girl who doesn't contribute to some of the bills, I need a partner not a leech.
