http://www.leftos.com/ Leftos is a free service designed to open up communication between Men and Women. Voice your opinion, share an experience, or ask a question and get responses from both Men and Women en-us New Forum Reply - I think a guy can be hot, handsome, attractive, pretty, gorgeous... but that's all in his face and body. I don't exactly have a large pool to draw from, but visually penises (penii?) are just ugly. I'm sorry guys, it's just... they're all hairy and dangly and the fact that you pee out of them does nothing to improve the mental image. That being said, I have no problem having sex with or going down on my boyfriend. I'm just not gonna stare at his cock when I don't have to. JillOfFandoms Wed, 10 Mar 2010 06:58:34 +0000 http://leftos.com/forum/view/574 http://leftos.com/forum/view/574 New opinion comment - Haha. Oh man, I also love hot guys making out. I guess it's the same principle as dudes liking chicks making out; double the fun! Sure there's other reasons, I'm just summarizing. JillOfFandoms Wed, 10 Mar 2010 06:47:32 +0000 http://leftos.com/opinion/view/409 http://leftos.com/opinion/view/409 New opinion comment - You can buy a personal porn star in the Czech Republic? Awesome! JillOfFandoms Wed, 10 Mar 2010 06:39:17 +0000 http://leftos.com/opinion/view/419 http://leftos.com/opinion/view/419 New Forum Reply - Also... yeah, too lazy to watch the video. But you mentioned the girl was Chinese. If she hangs out in a Chinese community, or even more if she's living in China, I can see why her friends would encourage her. Don't agree with it for the life of me, but a I can see it. Western civilizations focus on personal happiness, while Eastern ones focus on not rocking the boat and going with the crowd. Also in China it's highly patriarical. I feel like I'm missing something but it's past 1 AM here. JillOfFandoms Wed, 10 Mar 2010 06:34:23 +0000 http://leftos.com/forum/view/573 http://leftos.com/forum/view/573 New Forum Reply - ... That poor woman needs a slap in the face and a proper fuck. Anyway, onto horses that haven't been beaten to death yet yet... eh... If I ever got plastic surgery, I'd fix my nose. It was broken over a decade ago and never set properly and now its lumpy and crooked. It's hardly horrific and I'm fine with how I look, it's just an annoyance sometimes, and I admit the more shallow parts of me are scared stiff that my boyfriend will notice it leans slightly to the right. Still, that kind of thing would be more for me than anything. And if he ever actually asked me to get it fixed I'd throw a shitstorm. On a related note, I really want laser hair removal done in a variety of locations, both for myself and a bit for my boyfriend. I would totally do that if I had the money. And regular teeth whitening, cuz why not? It's not surgery, but it's all cosmetic. JillOfFandoms Wed, 10 Mar 2010 06:30:26 +0000 http://leftos.com/forum/view/573 http://leftos.com/forum/view/573 New Forum Reply - More specifically, I'm imagining a model wearing skin-tone undies/bikini with crystal body art. But doing that JUST down there specifically is just mind boggling. JillOfFandoms Wed, 10 Mar 2010 05:52:07 +0000 http://leftos.com/forum/view/592 http://leftos.com/forum/view/592 New Forum Reply - Fo shazzle my nazzle? JillOfFandoms Wed, 10 Mar 2010 05:47:59 +0000 http://leftos.com/forum/view/592 http://leftos.com/forum/view/592 New Forum Reply - Oh... wow... what? Why...? No. Not for me. I think putting crystals on your boy could make some interesting (and/or sexy?) body art, but... not like that. Just no. JillOfFandoms Wed, 10 Mar 2010 05:46:34 +0000 http://leftos.com/forum/view/592 http://leftos.com/forum/view/592 New opinion - http://www.documentary-log.com/d467-whatever-the-science-of-teens/ The third episode in this series explores the link between teenagers and sex. What exactly are teenagers experiencing (because I'm 22, and love and sex are not the same in early adulthood as they are when you're 15), what is going on in their bodies, and what is going on in their brains. For example, I learned something fun and new about oxytocin (my favourite neurochemical, the chemical that your brain releases that makes you feel attached to another person). When teenagers (although I am assuming this applies after adolescence) are sexual with each other, floods of oxytocin are released, making you feel close to that person. For males, this rush is transitory and quickly dissipates. For women, this rush lasts a longer time, and knowing what I know about neurochemicals, this means that it's affect on the brain is larger, and lasts longer as well. This means that although both men and women feel close during sex, that feeling melts away much quicker with guys than it does for girls. Of course this has interesting applications when it comes to monogamy, the differences in sex drives, and evolutionary biology. I'll let you mull around how those all might fit together with this one. Still, very good watch. Nice simple plain language. Not too long. Sexpert like. sexpert Wed, 10 Mar 2010 04:50:27 +0000 http://leftos.com/opinion/view/474 http://leftos.com/opinion/view/474 New opinion comment - I think this taps into something that people who have read my posts before will recognize. Set your partner up for success. In this case, it means providing your partner with the information necessary so that they know what you want them to do (get you a glass of wine, listen to you bitch, leave you alone, stop pestering them, etc). If something is wrong, find a way to communicate what is wrong in such a way that it maximizes your partner's chances of knowing which way you want them to respond. For example, if two people are in a spat, nothing serious, and one partner (for stereotype's sake the guy) says "well, what do you want me to do?" He is making it clear that he wants to comply with his partner's wishes (again, for stereotype's sake, let's make the partner a girl), and do what she wants, all she has to do is tell him what to do. If she replies "I don't know, do whatever you want", this does not help her partner, and does not set him up for success. He probably feels like no matter what he does, it will upset her. He feels trapped, frustrated, and just a little victimized. His partner probably feels upset that he isn't psychic, or anticipating her needs, or handling the situation with more tact. In this situation, I would argue that the woman is purposefully setting up the man for failure as a response to his aggression/frustration/not being psychic/whatever. Basically, she gets that smug satisfaction that of course he's not going to do what she wants him to do, because he's stupid, which was the reason why she was angry at him in the first place, which just validates her opinion. Anyone else see the problem with this? It's important for both partners to communicate their needs and how they are feeling. In general, I go into relationships, and circumstances in relationships with several assumptions. 1. My partner respects me and wants me to be happy, and will do whatever is reasonable to ensure my happiness. 2. I cannot directly control my partner. I can only directly control myself. Therefore, if I want my partner to do something reasonable to make me happy, and it isn't happening, the best way to solve this problem is to change my approach to communication to ensure that my partner is clear as to what my reasonable request is. Just my two cents. sexpert Wed, 10 Mar 2010 04:43:47 +0000 http://leftos.com/opinion/view/362 http://leftos.com/opinion/view/362 New Forum Reply - I know that some women don't want to change their name because of the cost associated with it. I know one of my friends found out that it would be $100 to get her name changed, and just decided not to do it. I know that other women like keeping their last name for professional reasons. If you have a PhD in your name, and that's the name on your diploma, and you have already say established a practice under your maiden name, changing it doesn't make as much sense. Some women see it as a societal "f**k you" to say that they are not the possessions of their husbands. Taking a man's last name was actually a way to say that a woman was being traded from one family to another, and that she no longer belonged to her family of origin, but now her in-laws. This is where the "giving away the bride" tradition comes from. You are literally giving away your rights to the property of your daughter. Most people acknowledge this role as purely traditional now, and if a guy wanted to say that he owned his wife, he would more than likely get an earful. However, some women still feel the remnant pressures on women to be less than equal with their husbands, and although I doubt the quality of the relationship between husband and wife would change if she took his last name, some women just like making the statement that the marriage is joining two families, not a trading of cattle. Still, I know other women that choose to keep their maiden name for second marriages. They took their first husband's last name, things didn't turn out, and they just say that they are not willing to do that again. Another factor might be the rise in common law marriages, or being in a relationship for many years before getting married. There are some couples that I consider to be married, and then realize, oh yeah, they don't have a piece of paper that says they are married. Again, if you have been together for 7 years and are choosing to tie the knot, a woman changing her last name just might not seem necessary or relevant. And finally, to add a personal touch to this long rant - I have always been a fan of the idea of two partners choosing a last name together, and BOTH changing their last name. I have heard of people taking the letters from each last name and combining them to make a new name. The options and possibilities are endless. I'm all about people sitting down, looking at the options, and deciding what is best for them. P.S. I will probably end up taking my partner's last name, just to make my parents happy. (If I ever get to someone to agree to marry me). sexpert Wed, 10 Mar 2010 04:21:29 +0000 http://leftos.com/forum/view/601 http://leftos.com/forum/view/601 New Forum Question - Is it just me or does it seem like less women are taking their husband's last name after marriage? I feel like I see more and more hyphenated last names. What do you think the reason for this is? Ladies, is this something your less likely to do? I can't imagine having to change my legal name in a world like ours with facebook, twitter, the internet, etc. RelaxIt Wed, 10 Mar 2010 01:30:46 +0000 http://leftos.com/forum/view/601 http://leftos.com/forum/view/601 New Forum Reply - Couldn't agree more! RelaxIt Wed, 10 Mar 2010 01:19:12 +0000 http://leftos.com/forum/view/600 http://leftos.com/forum/view/600