TheRealDeal

Age:

28

Gender:

Male

Status:

Single

Country:

United States

State:

Pennsylvania

Occupation:

Private Investigator

About me:

Past relationships:

Well, I've always been a great guy to all of my past girlfriends. I was raised to treat woman as a gentlemen and always have. I always seem to find girlfriends who act like something they aren't and because of that I have fallen for them only to find out they just wanted to be what they told me. Meaning, they described themselves and made themselves out to be who they really want to be, only they aren't that and rarely become that. I have been in ones that had too much freedom (tried to rely on trust) which I found only causes mistrust and too much jealousy. I have been in the ones that start out as friends and became much more than that only to find out that maybe I liked them because I couldn't have them at first or they were different as a friend then they were as a girlfriend. I have found that most girls I have gotten into a relationship with turn out to have deep dark secrets and/or some huge event that happened to them causing them emotional problems that in turn effect me; therefore, I have put up with so much and I always take it cause I guess I try and fix people. I realize now I can't do that and don;'t look for the "interesting" girls; however, I have always been picky (not with looks but some) about what a girl is like for me to want them. That is my problem. I have always given more than I recieved in a realtionship and thats a lot of just who I am as a person because I give a lot to everyone in my life that is a part of it, just especially a girlfriend or a girl I like. I always hoped that eventually they would reciprocate things more but never did and I would end it after too many psychotic episodes or possessiveness or them being needy. I always like being intimate and the main problem is the girls I have found seem to never know who they are or what they want in life so in turn it effects our relationship because they never remain consistent with who I feel for or even close. I could handle close and I understand not everyone is completely honest when first meeting someone but mine have all been girls trying to match me or match their imagination of themselves. I also dated 3 girls that were bi-polar and I only knew about the first one prior to dating (we were friends) or else I would have never dated the second two, haha, no just kidding, I don't discriminate and actually felt that the bi-polar ones added a little spice to relationship, lol. I have done most of the breaking up or it was just evident and one girl broke up with me in college cause of the too much freedom thing and one girl broke up with me in high school because she liked someone else (Only dated 3 months anyhow). Other than that I can't remember any other girls breaking up with and I feel that is because I never give a girlfriend a reason to break up with me. I know it sounds egotistical but I am very confident with who I am and how I have treated every girl I've been with or dated. I never disrespect, insult, physically harm, emotioanally harm, never cheated (not once or even came close even though was in situations where I may have had a good chance to), so i've always been loyal, always gave space when needed, not overly jealous but feel some jealousy needs to be there (its natural), not possessive (but know you need to make a girl feel wanted), I love to be romantic and I have always been with a girlfriend who enjoyed bedroom activities because I feel that is a very important part of a relationship among everything else. In all my relatiohshiops my girlfriends usually fit into several of these categories but lied about being some of the others and thats why I feel in love with them or liked them. When I came to realize they were lieing about being like or doing things in some of the categories aforementioned I felt betrayed but nevertheless still tried with them. Things just wouldn't work out and found it best to break it off or they would do something that showed a lack of caring that I needed. Wow that was long and sorry I sometimes ramble but usually know when to shut up. (I don't mean that as I am a big talker that annoys people or one of those people you try and avoid so you don't get stuck in a convo. with them, haha, you know damn well you know one of them and if you don't then that probably means your one of them, lol)

Current relationship:

Single again. Would like to find someone I can be friends with and be physically attracted to. That would be an ideal relationship for me.