I have not personally found a correlation between being a good kisser and someone being good in bed. My current bf and I don't french kiss, and yet he is amazing at oral sex. I've had all possible combinations with good kissers being good and bad in bed, and bad kissers being good and bad in bed. I can see where someone might see a connection. Some people might believe someone being a good kisser shows that you have chemistry in kissing, so maybe you have chemistry in bed. Maybe the style of kissing you prefer is the style of sex you prefer (quiet, gentle, but intense; passionate and uninhibited; wet and sloppy; slow and deep). personally, I haven't found a connection, and I have not seen a correlation between kissing styles and love making styles. I am used to being the exception to the rule though, so my experiences may not be typical.more

Oh good question. Eager to see what people think about this. I'd have to say no. I've been with some guys that don't kiss all that well (at least not how I like it) but still performed well between the sheets. I think kissing is more of a compatibility thing and not so much of a good or bad thing. Either you like the way someone kisses or you don't but it doesn't mean they are a bad kisser...just not your type. Anyhow, I've been with guys that aren't my "type" of kissers and still had a great time. So I think the answer to this is a definite no.more

I'm going to answer my own question: Wine. I know, I know, how stereotypical, get a girl drunk and she'll do anything! But here's the kicker: Occassionally, once in awhile, if my partner tries really hard, I can squirt. This is a really cool phenomenon, and it's worth noting when it happens. So if I want to squirt, it helps (although isn't completely necessary) that I have a little wine first. I don't know if it's because wine is a diuretic, or because I'm just a little bit more relaxed, or let's face it, just that much more horny, but wine helps in taking my sex from amazing to f***ing amazing. Although rich, creamy cheesecake with fruit topping has been known to get me VERY wet. Well, you gotta burn off those extra calories somehow.more

Robin Thicke.. Sex Therapy.. Really good song. It had me in the mood the first time I heard it. Great song. Great vibe.. All around great song. =]more

I'm personally drawn to aesthetically pleasing (and teasing) rope harnesses. If you can, hit up a workshop put on by the fabulous Midori. more

I lost my virginity to Björk's "Human Behavior," so whenever I hear it I think about sex. Given the content of the song, I'm guessing that was what she was going for.more

Probably about 8 of the songs from Lady Gaga's first CD. Strong beats, a confident female singer, and so stuff like Dirty Rich make me want to grind up with someone. Lol. Oh, and Oh My God by Pink ft. peaches gets me going too Nine Inch Nails, I wanna f*** you like an animal (I think it's called someone different, but you know what I mean).more

Wicked Games by Chris Isaak - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-oaHHrNQVrg That song and video (which I posted above) has got it all figured out. One day I will find myself on a beach with a beautiful woman, raining outside, we are wearing all linen, and the only people on the beach. I will then rip out my iPhone and play this song while.....more

Okay, well, this question has been thoroughly answered, but for anyone who is thinking of venturing into bondage, and you want something that's fun, easy to get out of, won't leave marks/cut off blood flow, then you can try leather cuffs. They have the benefit, that many look rather trendy, and no one really questions why you have it, you just look kind of punk. The other benefit is that it's soft on the skin, and doesn't leave marks. Because the cuffs are difficult to get off, even when not that tight, it's easier to ensure that you aren't going to cut off circulation to your hands. So how do cuffs turn into bondage? Time to get some dog leashes! Dog leashes are easy to clip on to the leather cuffs, easy to tie to beds, easy to make knots with, are nice and sturdy, and are quick to detach from the cuffs. I know this sounds weird, but I read Stephen King's Gerald's Game, and I totally fear having something happen to the person who is tying me up, and I want to be able to get out of my restraints on my own if I really needed to. So, yeah, I like leather cuffs. It also helps that I think leather is hot.more

Oh my god there are so many answers. Um, um, um... here goes So first I wanna steal a page out of the Knotty Boys' book. Remember that you are tying people, not knots. It's about being sexual and doing things that you and your partner enjoy, not about what knots you use. So knots are divided into how many columns they tie. (i.e. a one column tie can tie a wrist, an ankle, a thigh, or anything else. A two-column can tie two wrists together, an ankle to a thigh, a wrist to a chair, or any two singular columns) For tying limbs, it is important that you use tied cuffs that do not restrict blood flow and do not tighten when strained against. I suggest using the "single-limb" cuff or "single-column tie" from the twisted monk site or the "rope shackle" that can be found on the knotty boys site or in their book: showing you the ropes. Safe two-column ties include the "two-column tie" from twisted monk and knotty boys' "prisoner cuffs" and "basic wrap." Of all these, the "single-column tie" and the "basic wrap" are the quickest of each to untie. All of the knots shown by twistedmonk and the knotty boys will hold up to struggle if tied correctly. I also want to mention the "flogging cuffs" and "cat's paw" from the knotty boys. They both tie up amazingly quickly and give the wearer something to hold onto. I especially like the flogging cuffs. Don't let the name fool you, you can tie someone to the bed or something else with the flogging cuffs. As for aesthetics, you can always substitute a prettier or more complex knot for a more ordinary one in any harness. I'm a fan of the double coin and box knots. I don't think the popular cross knot feels very good against the skin, so I refrain from using it. As a general rule, the slicker the rope, the more likely it is for your knots to fail. So silk rope isn't going to hold a square knot nearly as well as hemp. Some ropes have special shapes (like flat rope). These specialty ropes have their own set of specialty knots. I also think that if you enjoy tying people up, you should probably learn the midshipman's hitch. The taut line hitch also works well for the same purposes. Let's say that you have the rope tied to a person's body at one end. You loop the other end around a fixed object (or loop on a cuff on a different body part) and tie a taut line hitch or a midshipman's hitch on the line. You can then adjust the tension put on the person and the knot shouldn't slip on the line after that when tied correctly. The quick release knot is also a good one to know so the cuddling can start as soon as possible after the action is done. And of course I'm obligated to throw in my safe sex schpeil: 1) know your knots and be able to tie and untie them 2) check in with your partner regularly to make sure none of their limbs are going cold or are getting a "pins and needles" sensation. This is a sign of decreased blood flow to the area and your ties need to be adjusted 3) avoid tying things around the neck 4) always keep a pair of EMT shears on hand in case something goes horribly wrong (EMT shears are flat on one side to protect human flesh) 5) discuss what is going to happen before it does 6) have a way for the tied person to communicate with the rigger (even if they're gagged) 7) remember bondage should be SSC: Safe, Sane, and Consensual And I'll leave you with some final tips and links: The more wraps in a cuff or tie you have, the more comfortable it is. Don't use just one length of rope, use several smaller pieces. The new knotty boys downloads page: http://www.knottyboys.com/code/downloads.php TwistedMonk videos. The hemp rope these guys sell is amazing. http://twistedmonk.com/video.htm The taught-line and midshipman's hitches: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taut-line_hitch The quick release knot: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Nxu-jS9TSc Note: this you-tube video demonstrates an INCORRECT taught-line hitch: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1jkN3K5G8eE P.S. Well thought out harnesses will always be the prettiest to me.more

I have used 1" tubular webbing to tie a partner to the bed, I use a figure 8 follow through with a double pass around the wrist to create a nice cuff. This isn't the prettiest way to tie someone down but it is fast and effective. Also the cuff won't tighten up if they are struggling against it, though this dose make the knot harder to untie.more

Well for me the sent of a woman's hair is amazingly sexy. I am sure there is a correlation between the proximity required to smell her, but a woman's sent always brings back a flood of memories of the times we have spent together.more

I definitely have a scent that's an aphrodisiac! For me, at least, lol other people have mixed reactions to it. I love the perfume Dior Addict. It works for me because it's a darker scent with a lot of spicy to balance out the sweet. I fell in love with it in high school, and only wear it out on special occasions because it's a very complicated, oriental and somewhat masculine scent that's a little overwhelming straight out of the bottle. What I do love to do, though, is to spray it on my laundry! That way there's a hint of it on all my fabrics, and to me, just this hint is deliciously enveloping. The base of the scent is really what I find appealing, which is good because it's the longest lasting part: masculine, spicy mixture of bourbon vanilla absolute, sandalwood, and tonka bean. The top notes do play an integral role in what I like so much about this perfume, as the contrast is part of what I love (think Jamaican Queen of the Night flower, jasmine and orange blossom). To me, there's something very sexy about having a signature scent... whenever I smell this I just feel sensual!more

For me working out gets my juices flowing. I'll admit that i don't work out on a consistent basis or enough but when I do (5 or 6 times a month), I come home just in the mood to get frisky. It gets all the hormones going and puts you in a good mood. Maybe it has to do with feeling good about your body and just wanting to get naked and enjoy it with someone. Maybe it's the working up a sweat factor. I'm not sure...but it definitely get's something going for me.more

Oh I believe in them alright!!! There is only one time and only one time in my life I found myself enchanted... Unable to help myself from make sweet, passionate love that night. I am talking about belly dancing. She did everything right. To the costume and the candles to the timing of the day and music to go with it. Up until this point I never believed in being enchanted or love spells but now I understand. It was all I could think about for the next month was that night and how I sat that unable to think to speak or act until the 30 min dance was complete!!!! Then I knew what needed to happen next... Post Script to that story... That relationship burned hot and fast, such things are not meant to last it seems...more