Seriously. If I had known when I was younger that so many varieties of fun sexy stuff existed, I wouldn't have had the big crisis I did (long story). Also, girls need to learn that they can usually get themselves off better than any teenage boy can. Boys have it real easy when it comes to masturbation. Girls, not so much. more

When I was younger, I liked to have two friends on the phone at once in conference calls because 2 friends = twice the silliness. Unfortunately, we had a habit of calling these 'three-ways'. Whoops. Also, I used to think that 'shag' applied to rugs and carpet, and assumed 'shag vans' were those big 60's vans in which such carpet was installed. Double whoops.more

I'll use the same answer here as I did on Tumblr, because although it is riddled with profanity, and not quite as eloquent as what I usually post here it's my opinion. *ahem* I think Australia is completely fucking insane. Banning someone, not just someone, but a whole group of someones, from performing because of a bodily feature borders on prejudice. Now, not hiring an individual for a particular role because they don’t fit is another matter entirely. If they’re worried about pedophilia-promoting content, then they should ban the CONTENT. Child-roleplay scenes, etc. This is a half-assed attempt to control something in place of not being able to control something else. And besides, what constitutes ‘small’ breasts? A? B? What about other bodily features? If the woman is an A-cup, but pushing 40 with tan lines and crow’s feet, is there really any doubt she appears any less a grown woman because she lacks an impressive bust? Why not ban shaved pussies, if they’re so worried about pedophilia? Female porn stars are waxed down to nothing, if they’re really concerned, promote body hair. It just makes no sense to me.more

Apparently you burn around 80 to 100 calories for a 30 minute session which isnt that bad but if you have sex regularly enough it would add up. I think as part of a controlled diet with perhaps a little jogging as well it would be a great supplement.more

I get it from everywhere I can, lol. I read a lot of psychology papers, feminist blogs and articles, from my friends, and even sitcoms sometimes. I get advice from my partner, from my past experience, and from my parents. Yes, even my parents. they have been married for almost 30 years, they must know something, right? I ask my friends for advice, but also for perspective. One of the best things that happened to be was being diagnosed with anxiety/depression. It was horrible to go through, but it has really helped me with my current relationships because I admit that I can be irrational. I know that although sometimes I feel a certain way, I can be the one in the wrong, I can be the one causing trouble, and I can be at fault. When I get worked up, I realize that sometimes what I need is perspective, and actually my partner can be that source. I can ask for his/her perspective and interpretation and compare it with my own. Am I way off base? Am I paranoid? Am I being unreasonable? I constantly self-reflect on my own behaviour to make sure I'm in line, and that has really helped me not make unreasonable demands of my partner, and to help set them up for success. I also love Dan Savage. I was raised in a... well... cult-ish brainwash-y type church, and so my idea of sex and sexuality was pretty screwed up till I was 15. After that, it was still screwed up. Learning a new moral code that made sense to me took time, but Dan Savage - you helped me do it! I like leftos for getting advice and giving it, because I get to hear perspectives here that I wouldn't normally hear. It also makes me have to verbalize what starts off as just a gut feeling, and define and justify what starts off just as an instinct. So yeah - academia, blogs, feminist websites/articles, friends, partners, family, myself - where do I not get advice from?more

I've actually find a liking to using sites like this one. My friends are great but a lot of them are friends with both me and my current girlfriend which makes it hard to approach them. They don't want to be put in the position to take sides. I still go to them but not for serious relationship matters. I'm not a big fan of reading a book or a magazine column because often times there's a bunch of BS filled in them to sell something. Plus, their opinions can't always relate to the exact situation I'm in. I have a couple friends that i definitely go to and are really helpful but often times they tell me what I want to hear which is not very productive. Sites like this have given me a place to get real, honest, non-bias feedback from other people. So thanks to you people, I've been able to grow a lot more in my relationship .more

Friends I've made through the years and life experiences yield the most beneficial feedback for me. And of course that's relative to the point I'm at in life. There was a point in time where my friends brought me down and held me back. There was also a point in time where my life experiences didn't provide the feedback to really help me. Keep your mind open and always look for the possibility, not the limit. emore

Dude, why do you think I became a whore? So I could kill two birds with one stone: exercise AND get paid. more

Thank goodness for the internet and sites like Leftos. Imagine how much easier it is for a young 14 year old high schooler to get real information on a subject that is so frequently repressed in our society. In the heat of their puberty and curiosity in the subject, they have to go to extended limits to find out what the hell is going on with their thoughts and body. The people that they usually go to for personal issues (family) aren't always responsive as it's obvious when reading other's responses and they can't go to their friends because of fear of embarrassment or judgement. In other cultures like France, sex is a lot more open from what I hear. It's not a big deal if a young teenager is exposed to nudity or the topic of sex. I think there would be a lot more safe sex, a lot more responsible sexually active people, and a lot less STI's if people were properly informed prior to breaking into puberty.more

I think that this Idea has serious potential. Sex is physical activity that is very enjoyable. I have never tried using sex as a part of a workout routine, but i don't have much of a workout routine anyways. I really don't see a problem with scheduling times to have sex and actually think it is a good idea. If you were to set up a baseline amount of times to have sex per week and made sure both partners are taking turns in a more active role I think it would work great. On a further note I am a huge fan of morning sex and it is shown that working out in the morning tends to boost your metabolism for the whole day therefor giving your workout more bang for the buck. Just in case there weren't enough reasons to have sex already.more

That sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of. I grew up with parents who didn't approve of premarital sex but also felt that sex shouldn't be talked about. I got a series of two religious books on sex from my parents when I was about 8 and 12. They also said, quite unenthusiastically, that I could ask them anything I wanted to. Basically all I learned from my parents about sex was to not talk about it. So instead I learned about sex, surreptitiously, from Love Line and the internet. I really wish that I had had an environment in which it was ok to be curious about sex and to explore how I actually felt about it rather than have that forced upon me.more

Stroke it gently, and often.more

I think the goal of my day would be based around achieving an orgasm. There's nothing I'm more curious about than comparing a female orgasm to a male orgasm. Ya it would be interesting to have boobs but here's the thing....As a guy I love them. I get to play with them and enjoy them without having to actually carry them around. As a woman, I'd have to deal with them 24/7 plus wear a bra which seems annoying. So I'm definitely more interested in my new set of lips if you know what I'm sayinmore

Wow, now I feel shallow. I said in the other thread that I'd masturbate and (try to) have sex with my boyfriend if I had a penis, and you guys are all into social experimentation at various levels. That's just... wow.more

Masturbate with it probably. And beg my boyfriend to... well... you can imagine. He would probably never go for it but, that's what roofies are for. ;-P It's not necessarily sexist... The reason for my answer is just cuz it'd be way easier for me to get off if I had dude-ly parts. As for writing in the snow... I've never knew anyone who did that, but I've always known the joke. And after seeing yellow snow in Philly recently... ew, not for me.more

I wish someone had told me that cum was cold. Finding that out first hand (haha hand) just kinda ruined the moment. I never had The Talk with my parents. I learned most stuff I knew about sex from school, and later from porny fanfic (damn I'm a dork...). Didn't lose my virginity til I was 20, but still haven't had the big O, by myself or with my boyfriend. For that reason, I wish I had known that I ought to have practiced if I ever want good sex. Eh well. Better late than never.more

I was given a very sex-as-biology kinda sex education, and told about the facts of it when I was pretty young (first time I asked where babies came from, so whatever age that was...) I'm actually pretty pleased with that and, if I ever have kids, would probably do it the same way. It allowed me to form my own moral judgements about sex, while still being informed about it. My mother always encouraged me to research my whole life; any time I asked what a word meant she just handed me the dictionary and I had to look it up and read the definition back to her, and I also had the full set of Encyclopedia Britannica in my room for more complicated questions. When we got the internet, I got a computer with internet access in my room so I could look things up that way too. (My mom still tells the story of when I was doing a report on beavers...) ...in retrospect, I really had no chance of not turning out as a nerd. But, you know, I kinda feel like all the non-nerds are missing out :Dmore

Well I'm kind of the opposite as to what the others so far have responded with. My up bringing provided me with absolutely no knowledge or information at all on sex. I was kind of lost and in result, was a very late bloomer. From reading lots of stuff on this site and knowing my own background, I think I've come to the conclusion that the best way to inform a young one regarding sex is provide JUST enough information...not too much, but definitely not a little. It seems like Sexpert and Simone were bombarded with information and probably a lot of it was more the opinions of the people who were telling them rather than the facts. In comparison, I was pretty much provided nothing other than the weird and uncomfortable sexed class in middle school. I think for starters, I wish I was told the facts. Not so much scared away with them but just the facts of sex. Be told the good things about it (because sex is a GREAT thing) but also the possible downsides that can come from it. One of the things I remember being so confused about was how everything I heard in regards to sex was how dangerous it was but at the other end, everyone seemed to want it. If I was simply told the facts of both ends, I would have been more comfortable with it all together and been able to find my place in what felt right with me. I think to a certain extent, young people need to experiment and discover things like sex themselves. If they can know the facts of how to experiment safely then they'll discover what feels right with them without making a possible fatal mistake.more