Part of me thinks that if a date is awkward then the conversation wasn't easy and flowing well. If either you can't come up with things to talk about with each other then you must not have a lot in common... On the other hand, dates ARE awkward. Period. You're sitting there thinking "oh, god I hope I don't have anything in my teeth" and over analyzing everything that you say. So, I dunno, I guess another date couldn't hurt. What if it turns out that you guys really hit it off the next time?more

It's simple. Be polite. Even if you are a person who is outrageous, sarcastic, has dirty humor, or likes to make fun of other people...save it for later. Just be polite at first and don't be over-the-top in your humor. Of course you want to be fun and make the person laugh but don't jump into your dirty jokes unless you've reached that level of connection and chemistry. I would say this rule applies for the majority of first dates but if you're on a date were you have a couple drinks, things start to loosen up, and there's that instant chemistry/buzz between the two of you, then you'll know it's ok to open up a little more. Otherwise, just play it safe, be polite, and don't start ripping off Playboy jokes.more

Personally, I think that he hasn't called because he's not interested. When a guy is interested, he doesn't care about fumbling around, he just wants to be around you. And this guy doesn't seem to be having that issue. I think you should consider the possibility that he's not interested and let it go. more

I think Sexpert nailed it. Most of the time us guys are sitting around clueless. We are stressing on when and what to say to the girl, wondering if she is interested, and secretly hoping she contacts us first to save the trouble. If you really had a good time and want to make sure you get together again I would just send something exactly like you suggested in your original post. As a guy, if I received a message from a girl like that after a date, I'd be pretty happy and excited (assuming I am interested). Most girls don't take that initiative and I would think it's pretty cool. I would most likely respond by saying something like, "I did too, how about I call you Thursday and we figure it out?" I'm assuming that's probably the response you're looking for when sending your initial message and that's exactly what you would get if the guys interested. If he's not interested then he'll somehow avoid getting drinks and you'll get the clue. Of course that's a bummer but at least you know that you can stop wasting your time and sitting next to your phone all week hoping for him to call. Just a little reminder though, if he says he can't get together this weekend, don't automatically assume he doesn't like you. He may very well have something he has to attend. I would just make a mental note and try again for another night. If a pattern starts to form then I think you can make the assumption that he's not interested and to move on.more

Half the time guys are just stumbling around clueless in the dark going "I wonder what she wants me to do next?". I'm biased, because I'm a very blunt and straight forward person, and I find that works wonders. When I want something, I ask for it, and then usually (when I'm being reasonable) I get it. Then I'm all thankful and grateful, and everyone feels good. Of course, you don't want to be overbearing or bossy, but a cute little text that says "had fun, want to get some drinks this weekend?" is perfectly reasonable. Trust your instincts with this one. If you had fun, he probably had fun. If you felt chemistry, he probably felt it too. If you're thinking about him, maybe, just maybe, he's thinking about you. I know so many people who say that the value a person who is self-confident and who is just themselves. Be confident, and do what your heart is telling you, which is to text the guy and say something that will make him smile all day. Congrats on the good date, keep us updated.more

Personally, I way prefer when a guy is chasing me; that way he's had to decide he's definitely interested and there's none of this wishy washy 'does he like me?' business. But I have very little patience for drama, games, or any... wishy washiness lol. If I'm in your situation, I'll usually do something completely innocuous, like sending a text that's only a ":-P" face or something. It's enough to remind him that hey, I'm alive, and yeah, I'm thinking about him, without placing any particular requests on him. If he likes me, he'll respond, and probably make plans; if he's just busy, he's more likely to remember to get in touch when he has time; if he doesn't like me, he can ignore it. Easy peasy :Dmore

Eh, it would depend really heavily on how well I thought I'd get along with them after they got over the awkwardness. If we had enough in common, the person had an oddball sense of humor, there was chemistry, I might be willing to overlook awkwardness on the first date. After all, not everyone can be as smooth as I am :D Just kidding... I'm the antithesis of smooth haha. But I am blunt and comfortable with who I am, and this enables me to get people to open up quicker than most.more

Even when someone is awkward and uncomfortable, their personality still shows through. I have dated shy girls before, and I had to draw them out of their shell a little bit. It was cute and endearing, because the parts of their personality that still got to see were worth my time, and worth seeing them come out of their shell. That being said, I had already felt some chemistry with them, and so if it was a blind date with someone, or someone that I wasn't sure of chemistry before, it would depend on how painful the date was, and (this is so awful of me to say) how desperate I am. If I have a lot of potential dating partners, then I might move on to the next one. If I have an open schedule, and no one else is showing interest, then I am more likely to have the patience to wait until that person relaxed a little so that I could get to know the real them.more

On a first date I would say it would be detrimental to sleep together (have sex.) Normally when this happens emotions come into play and the girl finds herself waiting by the phone for him to call or bombards him with phone calls or texts and wonders why he's run a mile. BIG no no if you want your date to respect you and see you again. ~Eve~more

My first dates, unless I'm not physically attracted to them at all, always involve sex. It's hard for me to answer this question, since I equate a first date with sex and so my criteria for asking someone out usually involve: wanting to bone them, usually for an extended/ongoing period of time. And I usually want to bone them because a) they are attractive to me physically (and really, I don't have any standards here beyond, you must have all your teeth) and b) are intelligent and c) respect women. If you can make me laugh and keep me on my toes, I'll probably be all over you. Bonus points if you're a feminist. It also helps if the feeling is mutual! more

1. Trash your ex. 2. Talk on your cell. 3. Mention that you have a creepy identical twin who slept with your date pretending to be you. OK, that last one was from Dead Ringers, but you know, if you're a twin, don't do that. more

Show up late. It's one thing if there's a terrorist bombing or surprise visit by Godzilla, but unless you're new to a place, you should have a good idea when the traffic or weather becomes a problem and be able to plan accordingly. And if you're still going to be late, make sure the other person knows you're on your way and make sure you get there with all haste when you do. Honestly, if you're trying to impress someone, giving them that "just got stood up" feeling is a very bad way to start. more

Hmm thats funny when I look at Recent comments and click on Everyone I see your comments sexpert but when I come through to the article they aren't here. Either way thanks for the going dutch explanation... lol thats pretty funny actually is that common? I can't imagine trying that here to be honest I don't think I've ever heard of anybody doing it.more

It's funny how the women have a lot more to complain about than the men on this one. It's pretty sad how the men even have advice for men.. god you guys make us men look so imcompetent. I don't really have a lot to say here though but I do have a question. One of the comments below by DateDaily mentioned "Go Dutch". Uhmm what is Go Dutch? Does she dislike Dutch food?more

USE COUPONS....not cool....ok to use coupons on the 8th or 10th date...NOT on the first!!!more

Honestly dating is just something that is so natural it shouldn't require thought. If you see an attractie woman go talk to her, keep it brief and ask her out or ask for her number. I bet if you went into a bar caught somebodies eye talked to her and then asked her if she wanted to take a walk or go get something to eat she'd be hard pressed to say no. If you fear rejection too much youll never get anywhere. The world is your oyster don't be so quick to judge on any first impression just follow your nose.more

Go Dutch. Or worse, break out a calculator and calculate who had what. Ugh! more

Try not to dominate the conversation too much. It's easy to want to ask questions and learn a lot about the person but that will come. Plus you will be surprised at how much you can learn from someone by just letting them talk and listening. Letting people open up themselves will actually show you more about who they are then if you ask them specific questions that they feel forced to think about and answer.more