I have a horrible story! If people have...
I have a horrible story! If people have been following my posts for awhile, then you know that I grew up in a very unhealthy church. I don't believe all churches are unhealthy, but this one was led by unhealthy people with unhealthy motivations, and they hurt a lot of people (and unfortunately still continue to hurt a lot of people). So while growing up in this extremely hostile fundamentalist church (which even other fundamentalist churches are like - guys, relax), I was taught a lot of hateful things about gay people, Jews (in a backward subtle way) and about sexuality in general. So, one year my brother was in a play they were doing about the Crucifixion of Jesus (obviously this was around Easter). I really wanted my girlfriend to understand what my old church was like. I wanted her to see the influences that shaped and made me who I was. I wanted her to understand what a miracle it was that I was the healthy, loving, and caring person that I was. So I brought my lesbian Jewish girlfriend as my date to my old church's Easter play. It was beautiful. I didn't introduce her to anyone as my gf, I just told them she was a friend. In one night, she got to see where I came from, and understood me on a whole new level. I also got to secretly rebel against my church and without telling anyone, I was screaming my victory over hate, prejudice, fear, and scorn. Something healed that day, and my girlfriend helped me do it. I finally got closure on some things that I never had closure on before. I think it benefited our relationship, and I felt closer to her than ever. So yeah, I bet you weren't expecting that one as an answer! Oh Sexpert, what a rebel you are! What a naughty girl! (and I have to admit, half the fun was being so damn naughty!)more