I think a lot of young guys are a little afraid of asking how to get you off because they never see anyone doing that in movies or porn. They're just supposed to know how to get girls off, because all girls need is a healthy dose of cock to get off, right? There are a lot of people, especially young ones, who want to look like they know what they're doing already and would rather not "interrupt things" with questions about how you like it. This is a problem because a lot of women don't want to seem too bossy and thus don't ask for the things they need to get them off. I wouldn't just blame the guys on this one, because nobody's going to know how to get you off if you don't say anything! Maybe the guys have been with a string of women who never asked for anything in bed, so they assumed that what they were doing works for all women. If their previous partners don't insist on receiving head, they might not want to give it. I'm with Dan Savage on this one: any guy who doesn't eat pussy does not deserve to have a girlfriend who gives head. So, lots of guys don't ask for directions and lots of women don't give them. What they don't realize is that talking about what turns you on can be REALLY HOT. You don't have to sit down at the kitchen table and make demands; some sexy verbal feedback on the things that are working is a great start. Moving a guy's hand to your clit and showing him how much you like to be touched there isn't too bossy and will likely get you what you want.more

I had a girlfriend who was looking for a sugar daddy. To be fair, I was dishonest with her when we met. I overstated my net worth. So she decided she wanted to get pregnant. She told me she had just finished her period, and told me I didn't have to pull out. In fact, she said it was gross when I pulled out. Not to get too specific, we did the deed and I faked it. She never got pregnant, and she ended up dumping me a few months later. I guess she found a new prospect. more

I agree, the "facial" cumshot is the product of porn making it seem cool to lots of men. I would be interested to know if there's any evidence that it even existed before the era of video porn. It does seem absolutely bizarre that a passionate sexual act should be terminated before conclusion so the man can masturbate onto the woman's face. Many women online write about how a man's coming in their vaginas excites them, and more than a few say that it frequently triggers an orgasm for them. How can a guy with any sense bypass something that might just make a woman come with him? Freud said lots of BS about sex, but his criticism of coitus interruptus as a bad thing for women was apt, I think. I have seen amateur videos where the man pulls out as soon as he feels the possibility of an orgasm, foreclosing the possibility of vaginal orgasm so he can finish with up to 5 minutes of masturbation (or sometimes, fellatio) and ejaculate onto the woman's face. That has disgusted me so much that it has cured me of watching that stuff.more

There is some good discussion of this topic here http://www.leftos.com/forum/view/558 To address your specific questions: First it isn't always easy for all men to orgasm. Many men spend years masturbating a very specific way and this can make it harder to have orgasms other ways. Insecurity and other mental issues can play just as strong a role for a man as they do for a woman. This can lead to quite a vicious circle: a man is having a little bit of trouble achieving orgasm. His partner is getting impatient and encouraging him to finish. This then leads to more stress and makes it even harder to finish. I have experienced this several times. The perception that all men have orgasms every time makes it even harder for a man who doesn't fit that mold. On your second point you are very correct but most women will accept that a man would rather have vaginal sex than oral sex. This then leads to the use of a condom with little explanation. Now you have moved easily from a situation where it is impossible to fake an orgasm to one where it is easy. For me there are nights where we have been having sex for a long time and we are both tired and ready to get to cuddling or sleeping, I don't want to explain that it isn't going to happen I just want to collapse. I don't make a habit of faking orgasms, it really is a lazy option for me.more

You can read about my experiences elsewhere on this site, but I guess it's not too terrible to have them where someone can find them. So I've gotten to a point in my life where I've come to terms with my penis. Sometimes it takes forever for me to have an orgasm, sometimes I don't have one at all. As a result of this, me having an orgasm is no longer an expectation of sex between my partners and myself, and I'd say our sex is better off for it. But I did fake once and here is that story: We had been having sex for 50 minutes. (Yes, I check the clock when I enter her; it's kind of a habit out of interest) I mean, sex feels nice, but when it goes longer than either party expects it to, problems arise. She was telling me to come in her (a super turn-on), but I just sort of interpreted it at the time as "she is sick of having sex with me". My muscles were tired, we were both covered in sweat, I was ready for sex to end, but my penis did not agree with me, so I faked one. I couldn't look her in the eyes when I did it. That was partially because we love to lock eyes during orgasms and I was afraid she'd know, and the other part was because a long time ago, before a physical relationship even developed, we agreed not to fake (though, at the time, it was more because I was afraid that she was going to). I felt as though I was lying to her. I collapsed and we started cuddling. I was silently crying, and it took her a little while to notice. We talked it out and I've done a lot of thinking since then. I don't get hung up on having an orgasm anymore, which is a pretty big step, I think.more

I have explicitly faked an orgasm once and on a few occasions have neglected to mention weather or not I had finished. There are just some days where it is just not going to happen and that is fine with me. Despite the fact that I can get away with faking an orgasm I don't like to. I prefer to explain that I am not going to finish and I am ok with that. It is a bit difficult to explain to someone the first time. The stereotype of a man being able to cum on demand, or cumming too early really is working against you. I don't recommend faking orgasms, communication is a better option in the long run. That said if you are not as concerned about the long run and you don't want to get into this conversation go for it. If you are using a condom she will probably never know.more

Ahaha, guys faking orgasms. Oh the stories I've heard. The best part about being known for talking about sex is that everyone comes to you with their stories. So personally, I can feel it, but for a very specific reason. If a guy says that he is going to cum, that is my favourite part of PIV (penis-in-vagina) sex, and I cum instantly. Cumming means that my lady bits contract and get super tight, meaning that I can feel every twitch, every surge, every beat of his heart. I love it. Still, for anyone else, I can understand why women would be fooled, although much easier with a condom. With a condom, most women don't inspect it afterward to confirm the amount of ejaculate. They usually lead that disposal to the guy. Without a condom, it depends. Some men's semen is more clear and depending on how long you've had an erection for, and when the last time you ejaculated, the amount of ejaculate changes. One of the things in a guy's favour is that most women aren't expecting a guy to fake, and therefore will not notice anything "suspicious" because there is no reason to be suspicious. If she does make mention about the lack of cum, a guy can say something simple like "I thought girls always complained about there being too MUCH cum, and now you're complaining about too LITTLE? How does a man please you people?" by turning it into a joke, it shows he's not worried, and then girl will forget it. I did have one guy try to fake it with me. poor thing. We were doing marathon sex, and it was the second time we were having sex, and I don't think he could cum, and so just faked it so I would feel better. I suppose that's sort of noble, right?more

It's different with different guys and different girls (in my experience, at least!) I personally can't feel the ejaculate AT ALL, but some of my friends have said they can feel it. With some guys, I've found that their cocks jerked/twitched in a very specific way when they came, and that's a distinctive feeling. Different women also have sensitivity to different depths, etc, on the inside, and you have to account for different penis shapes and sizes too.more

I fall under Sexperts definition of p*ssy worshiper. I pride myself on taking my time and making sure my partner is enjoying herself to the fullest and i have to truly believe that they came first to be able to myself. Making a girl happy is a myth to some because they never truly tried in my opinion. I personally dislike the type of guys who talk about women as they would be an amazing theme park ride, wild ride, 'slam that ass', 'tap that', etc,. These guys i know are not the type of guys i know would take care of a woman in bed and appease her requirements. This might be socially acceptable but i hate it, and it is a reason that i avoid guys like that. I assume that these guys are smart enough to not talk like this in front of women, but if you have a guy friend that you trust get him to follow them to the washroom or have him hang with them etc., as a way to weed the rotten ones out. Good luck with the issue.more

I think this mainly has to do with who you're hooking up and more specifically, the kind've relationship you have with them. I'm gonna have to agree with you, that most guys aren't nearly as interested in getting the girl off, as they are about getting off themselves. But I think it mainly applies to "hook-ups" and "one night stands". Basically, any time you're hooking up with someone, but don't have feelings for them. This is because that's the very nature of that kind've relationship...you're only in it for sexual pleasure. When it's with someone who you have feelings for, for instance a girlfriend, someone you like, etc.. Then I think it's different. Atleast for me, I always WANT to make sure she's getting as much pleasure from it as I am. It turn's me on to see my girl get off, I love it. I do think that it has to do with the kinds of guys you're hooking up with. Find guys that respect women, that aren't complete assholes, and that aren't just out there looking to get some ass every night. Those are the kinds of guys that will be sexually more giving... more

It's not really that much fun if she isn't into it, or getting off too (should she want to)... the more you give, the more you get.more

There are men out there that worship women. They love pussies. They will eat you out until the sun comes up. They will finger you, and spend hours on foreplay until you are practically begging them to put on a condom and f*** you silly. There are guys that measure their masculinity not by how many times they can cum in a night, or how many girls they sleep with, but measure it by how many times they can get a girl to orgasm, or how much pleasure he can give her (if orgasms are not always possible). There are men that care more about getting a girl off than having an orgasm themselves. I know, I've slept with a couple of them. They just make you love yourself, and love your body. They will lay down after sex and run their hands over your body and go "I like this freckle. It's in exactly the perfect spot" and "your breasts are the most perfect breasts I have ever seen, because they're yours". It sounds kinda cheesy if I write it, but to have a guy just WORSHIP your body is an amazing feeling, and you can't help but catch a little bit of the fever. So I think you might be sleeping with the wrong guys. So how do you recognize these women adoring, selfless lovers? Umm... I'm not 100% sure. I don't really actively seek them out, it's just that I'm naturally attracted to a certain kind of personality that must have a higher incidence pussy worshiping. The type of guy that I personally have come across that is like this is someone who respects women all the time. These guys love women from head to toe. You won't see them picking apart other women in front of you or being overly critical. They tend to see women as all unique treasures to be opened up and discovered. And in my experience, they tend to surround themselves with strong and confident women. They will listen to you, because they are genuinely interested in you, not just what they can get out of you. In my experience, they care what other people think of them, not in a physical way (they might not fuss about small things), but they care that you think they are a good person. Essentially, they value other human beings and you'll notice it. These are not the guys that talk about what girls are worthy or not worthy of their attentions. These are the guys that see 90% of women as beautiful in their own way, and even if they wouldn't sleep with 90% of the women that they come across, they can at least understand why someone else would find them attractive, and so do not degrade them. They also care about you outside of the bedroom. Do they make sure that your needs are being met? Do they check if you have a ride home? Do they ask if you want anything to eat or drink? Do they offer to get your coat for you, etc. Find those men that make you feel like an amazing person outside of the bedroom, and in my experience, you're going to find the men that make you feel like a goddess in the bedroom.more

Everyone is different. The louder you are doesn't necessarily mean you're enjoying it any more than someone who is not loud and of course it also depends WHERE you are. It is good if the other partner gets some feedback though in the way of heavy breathing/moaning or to be told that what they're doing is nice. That way they know they are being successful in pleasuring their partner. It can also be a great turn on for them whereas if no noises are made, they may begin to wonder if they are actually hitting the spot or not! ~Eve~more

You can tell if I'm faking, because I have a vice grip vagina. When I orgasm, my vag closes up so hard, that if a guy's cock isn't completely hard, it gets pushed out and I have to stop cumming before they can get back in. So if I'm all wet and ready for sex, I'm a little looser (which is a good thing), but damn, you can tell the difference! so yeah, if I were to fake, the guy would be like "uhh... where's the squeeze?" that being said, I can fake moan and squirm good enough to fool someone watching, it's just that if your fingers or penis are inside me, you can tell. This post brought to you by the letters T, M, and I.more

Not all women are good at faking orgams. I was with this woman not too long ago and she was all like: ah ah, oh baby, oh my god.. oh.. oh.. im gonna cum and i was like: can you wait till i put it in.more

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