speak up and give directions!
I think a lot of young guys are a little afraid of asking how to get you off because they never see anyone doing that in movies or porn. They're just supposed to know how to get girls off, because all girls need is a healthy dose of cock to get off, right? There are a lot of people, especially young ones, who want to look like they know what they're doing already and would rather not "interrupt things" with questions about how you like it. This is a problem because a lot of women don't want to seem too bossy and thus don't ask for the things they need to get them off. I wouldn't just blame the guys on this one, because nobody's going to know how to get you off if you don't say anything! Maybe the guys have been with a string of women who never asked for anything in bed, so they assumed that what they were doing works for all women. If their previous partners don't insist on receiving head, they might not want to give it. I'm with Dan Savage on this one: any guy who doesn't eat pussy does not deserve to have a girlfriend who gives head. So, lots of guys don't ask for directions and lots of women don't give them. What they don't realize is that talking about what turns you on can be REALLY HOT. You don't have to sit down at the kitchen table and make demands; some sexy verbal feedback on the things that are working is a great start. Moving a guy's hand to your clit and showing him how much you like to be touched there isn't too bossy and will likely get you what you want.more