I think you really need to talk to her about this. For starters, being in her parents house definitely is playing a role in all of this. I am never comfortable completely letting loose and having sex with my boyfriend while at my parents house. It feels weird and the last thing I want is them walking in on their daughter in some freaky deaky position. I think you need to find out what makes her happy and comfortable. Even if she has a low sex drive, that doesn't mean you guys can't be happy and still satisfy each other. The only way you can solve this is by discussing each others wants and needs and understanding each others comfort levels.more

Oh man...great question and can't wait to see some of these answers. The craziest thing I've done...which might not be THAT crazy, was sing in front of an entire bar for a girl in college. If you can imagine the scene in Top Gun when all the guys sing at the bar "You've lost that loving feeling", well then you got a good idea of what went down. I sang that exact same song and embarrassed the hell out of her. Either way, we ended up dating for sometime so I guess it worked?more

I think the biggest problem with this misguided approach to interactions is that it says, to all of the world, "I never matured past middle school, and since I can't pull your pigtails anymore, I'll just say mean things to you." Oh yeah, that's sexy....? Teasing and joking around is something I always do, with all of my friends, especially when I'm flirting. The thing is, a joke is not the same as a straight up insult.... The whole point of this is to elicit a laugh, not to make anyone feel bad, that's the polar opposite of what I want to do when flirting. more

More important than anything, is for YOU to learn to be comfortable with touching girls in appropriate ways in public. How can you become more comfortable with this? Simply start doing it. I'm not going to tell you it's an easy road filled with nothing but laughter and making out. Sometimes you might embarrass yourself - in which case a simple apology is in order, then MOVE ON; don't dwell on the mistake. As you do this more and more you will learn what is appropriate and when it's appropriate. Also, you will hopefully learn to read people better and gauge how you touch them based on how you think they might receive it...that's called calibrating. Make sense? emore

I agree that a hug is not the way to break the touch barrier. to me it seems best if the first touch is brief and clearly on a friendly level. I try to send the message that I am comfortable touching them and then make myself available for them to reciprocate. An example seems to be in order here. I was on a first date with a woman and we were walking down the street. It was cold, we both had our hands in our pockets. We were having a good conversation and both were laughing. I just bumped her elbow with mine while we were both laughing at something, then took the hand closest to he out of my pocket. She took my hand and things proceeded from there.more

There's ways to tell someone you like them without coming out and saying "I like you". That's always a little too upfront and uncomfortable. Put yourself in that position. A girl that you use to be friends with but you've only seen a couple times in the last couple months comes up to you and says, "Hey, I really like you." You'd probably be caught off guard, taken back a little, and have no way to respond. I definitely don't think the option is to continue playing the regular old friend game. All that's going to get you is a nice spot in the friend zone and the last thing you want is her texting you for guy advice. I say you make some moves. Start texting her more and implying you want to see her out at night. Find out what she's doing at night and say something like "I'll definitely try and stop by to see you". By saying something like that you're not sounding desperate like you're planning the whole night around seeing her (even if you are) because you use the words "I'll definitely try" implying you got other shit going on. At the same time, you make it pretty obvious that the only reason why you would stop by is to see her. Sending little hints like that are good ways to imply you're intentions without coming out and saying them. Here's another good example of how you can initiate hanging out. Let's say you're out at a party or bar and the two of you are talking. Let's say you're talking about a restaurant (just an example)...you say something like, "next time you and I hang out, we're definitely going to that restaurant and ordering everything on the menu" or let's say you're talking about food you both like...you say something like "you're definitely coming over soon and I'm cooking a ton of whatever for us". The point of the above is that you're setting some event in the future for you two to hang out. Yes it's in a joking manner and chances are you both aren't going to that restaurant and ordering the whole menu, and you might not have her over and cook her a whole pot of pasta or something, but what you're doing is creating an event that you can bring up that implies the 2 of you hanging out. So a day or two after you guys have that conversation you can send her a text and say, "hey, so when are we going to that restaurant and stuffing our faces with chili cheese fries"...you've just created an easy way for you to initiate conversation and a possible time to hang out. You also need to be more upfront with your body language. It's ok to touch a girl (not in a weird or creepy way) but simply grabbing her hand to walk into another room or placing your hand on the small of her back and she walks by you. Simple touch shows that you're confident and comfortable around her rather than being the "friend" who just sits back and doesn't take initiative. Eventually you should be able to send her the signs that you like her more than a friend and you'll be able to get hints back if she's kind digging the same thing or if she's not about it. Feel free to message me and tell me how it goes. If you start getting good hints back...like she's texting you back with good comments or being more upfront or flirtatious with you in response to how you act around her, then you just keep escalating the process and be more upfront about your intentions. If she doesn't then you start understand her feelings towards you and you move on. Hope that helps... more

All I can say is, no guts, no glory! more

The hug is not the way to break initial touch barrier here, it is too easy to totally misinterpret. Mid-arm is usually a good target, around the elbow/forearm. The closer you move to the neck or when you get to the wrist increases connotation of intimacy. I always like to offer the arm. Keep your eyes open for a situation to walk with her, and offer your arm like in your daddy or grandaddy's day. It is pretty harmless, an uncommon gesture (which sets you apart immediately), and some women really like those sorts of things. Also, if you are a bit of a crack-up, you can always bail out into a joke if it seems to fall flat. You can also learn a lot about a person by trying to walk in sync with them.more

Some women are more flirty. Now, since she has made out with you, the flirting that she has done with you meant something. Will she continue to (harmlessly?) flirt with other guys if she is in a serious relationship with you? Well, past behaviour tends to be the best predictor of future behaviour. When she was in a relationship with her previous bf, was she flirty with people then? The best thing you can do is talk to her. See if she would be willing to try to curtail some of her flirting if she did go out with you. It is then your job to be reasonable and not freak out if she slips up every once in awhile. If you feel that you can't be reasonable (by my definition, not necessarily yours) or you don't feel like she would be able to live up to your standards of how you think a girlfriend should act, then this might be an issue of compatibility. I don't see a relationship working between someone who is very flirty, and likes being very flirty, and someone who is threatened by that. Someone has to give ground, and either she has to learn not to be flirty, or you have to learn to be more secure/change your standards. Wow, that sounds a little harsh. It looks like you're 22, so you're both young, so take that into account. Sometimes the best things about relationships are the fact that they push us to challenge ourselves to be better people, to pull us out of our comfort zone, and to teach us about ourselves. Maybe both of you could treat a relationship together as one of those types of relationships, and you could learn new ways of compromising. Maybe?more

It's hard to say, she might be flirtatious as she's fresh out of a relationship and enjoying the freedom and attention. She might also be a fairly sexual person and like interacting with others that way. She could also be playful and light and what appears to be flirtatious and full of sexual intent, but it is her being friendly. I suppose she could also be a little insecure, and this gets her attention. I'm not assuming or judging any of these possibilities, they are neither right nor wrong, they just are. If she's fresh out of a relationship, she might not be ready for a relationship - even if she likes you. It is possible that you taking her flirtations and projecting your own desires for something more serious onto her actions (ie - if she's flirting with you she must want a relationship). That's not saying she doesn't, it just might mean you are getting serious faster than she is... So just enjoy being with her and see how it progresses. If she flirts less and you two get more serious, that's great. If she's still flirting with others, it might be just how she is, and if you are sensitive (or insecure) she might not be the right person for you... but the best thing to do at that point (when you are more serious) is to ask her about it -- not confrontationally or judgmentally, but out of curiosity, what you see and how one might interpret it, that you are likely wrong about it, and what her thoughts/intent is. (then she can share, and you can decide if her behaviour works for you) Of course if it's driving you nuts, ask her about it now... but keep it light... if you are way too serious way too quick and she's not ready for a relationship it might cut things short (which isn't a bad thing if you are looking for more than she is right now)more

I know how you feel on this one. I was recently with a girl who was flirtatious with other guys and it did some serious damage to our relationship. With us, she did it right from the very beginning when we first met and when we started dating and it created this image of her that was almost impossible to shake. That's my concern with your situation. It's hard to get rid of that image you have of her. Its gonna make you hyper sensitive to anything that could be considered flirtatious. It just causes problems. There's a reason she's doing it...most likely its because she's just really insecure about herself, or maybe that she's immature and has some growing up to do. Either way, she's probably not ready to be in a committed, healthy relationship right now. more

What do you mean the flirting is a big deal? Do you mean you can' be with a girl who flirts with other guys? If that's what you mean then hopefully she won't flirt with other guys as the two of you hang out more and become more an item. If you mean flirting with you...I don't see the problem. When you like someone you flirt with them. Why would you want her to stop that?more

Personally I like guys that have kinda raspy voices. It's gotta sound natural though, not like someones who's sick and coughing all the time. All girls might not feel the same way, but for me if you've got a naturally raspy voice...oh yea, definitely sexy!more

In the same way some people find blue eyes attractive, or certain hair colors, etc; it's all personal preference. I myself love a guy with a deep or gravelly voice, I think it's sexy as hell :Dmore